idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
It shouldn't make a difference....
....if you like her, go for it.
....if you like her, go for it.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i'm not trying to make a point.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Whats your point?? Dont be a punk, just get to your point.
And what the hell might you be talkin about?? Do you have any proof of this?? How do YOU know the purpose of his post??Originally posted by Nivek
pretty much the purpose of these posts is to show that it is much harder for a colored male to get with a white female than vice versa with a white male and colored female. guys think differently from girls and base it on looks. girls base on social bias and other things.
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
And what the hell might you be talkin about?? Do you have any proof of this?? How do YOU know the purpose of his post??
Its no different. Are you thinking you need like a translator to talk to the chick or what? Are you thinking she makes you learn her language before she will accept you? Are you thinking she has a 3rd arm because shes a different race.Originally posted by tactic
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.
if anybody has experienced dating women from different races and what they've experience, by the way.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
that's what i was trying to say but not trying to make a point.Originally posted by Cyberdx16
i think that its fine to date others of a different race. But u also have to remember that he or she may like you for who you are, but when i comes to ur culture, it may change everything.
It's been ten years since I've dated anyone from my race, mostly LTRs lasting a year or two (if that even counts as a LTR). I live in Minnesota and it's readily accepted but it isn't the norm of the locals. Most people that are receptive to it aren't Minnesota natives. Either that or they have lived in places that are socially diverse yet economically equal, if you get my drift.Originally posted by tactic
the purpose was to know if anybody here has experienced it.
if anybody has experienced dating women from different races and what they've experience, by the way.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.