“Sex Drive” as a cause hides the true concept behind the programming. “No Desire” would be correct and thus can lead to understanding.Your responses have been super interesting, thanks everyone.
What is most interesting to me is that when I asked about "personality change" I really had "sex drive" in the back of my head but I didn't actually say it. And yet, that is what most of you have concentrated on. This is of particular concern for me because, even though I haven't been married, I had a 2 year relationship with an extremely religious woman who felt guilt for having sex. As a result, over time the sex greatly diminished, and I was having it maybe once per week even though we were practically living together (college dorm). It was extremely frustrating. She made me feel like she was doing something FOR me, not that it's something we shared together. I remember days where I was out to dinner with her and had a creeping anxiety about whether or not I was getting laid that night. Any argument meant no sex for days. I was completely under her control. Thank God it was just a gf and I wasn't tied down by kids or a legal contract, but I got a look into what that could be like, and it was horrible. High sex drive is now the absolute most important thing in screening for potential LTRs, but I'm scared about that drive disappearing as soon as a kid or two come out.
Also, old joke (usually told in Spanish):
Husband comes home from work and calls out to his wife.
Husband: "Honey, I brought you the aspirin!"
Wife: "What? I don't have a headache."
Husband: "Great. Let's fvck!"
A woman can feel absolutely nothing for you and you call it “low sex drive”, whereas she is off banging like a banshee out of hell with someone she feels DESIRE for.
Two completely different concepts.
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