Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.Master Bates said:I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.Master Bates said:I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dot said:How did you do that? Sometimes I'm bad at getting myself fully immersed, even if I enjoy it. It's easier if I enjoy it, but still sometimes it happens when I do enjoy it.
So you think preparation helps a lot? Yeah I definitely some days where everything's off and I can't get things done.backbreaker said:I never completely got over it. I might very well have ADD. every once in a while, I still catch myself blowing complete days by doing absolutely nothing because I can't think about one thing for more than 5 mintues. But if I get up in the morning, and eat a good breakfast, work out, my mind is alot sharper. it's about cleaning the crap out of your mind. having a game plan set for the next day.
the more prepared I am to go into battle the next day, the more likely I am to succeed.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I understand how u feel, cuz I've been diagnosed with ADD as well LOL. I'm sure many of you will say "oh you're making it up" but for real I have ADD I've even read a book on it which detailed every single symptom and I was amazed at how they had me down to a tee.backbreaker said:god yes. it changed my life.
if you saw how detailed my to do list is, you would laugh, but i know myself if it's not that detailed I will sit outside with my dogs all day or spend all day at the horse track.. which is fun and somewhat productive but I am neglecting everything else. I had a woman one day at my door for 30 mintues because I forgot I had a date and wasn't home. that's how forgetful i can be.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.