Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.Master Bates said:I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.Master Bates said:I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
dot said:How did you do that? Sometimes I'm bad at getting myself fully immersed, even if I enjoy it. It's easier if I enjoy it, but still sometimes it happens when I do enjoy it.
So you think preparation helps a lot? Yeah I definitely some days where everything's off and I can't get things done.backbreaker said:I never completely got over it. I might very well have ADD. every once in a while, I still catch myself blowing complete days by doing absolutely nothing because I can't think about one thing for more than 5 mintues. But if I get up in the morning, and eat a good breakfast, work out, my mind is alot sharper. it's about cleaning the crap out of your mind. having a game plan set for the next day.
the more prepared I am to go into battle the next day, the more likely I am to succeed.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I understand how u feel, cuz I've been diagnosed with ADD as well LOL. I'm sure many of you will say "oh you're making it up" but for real I have ADD I've even read a book on it which detailed every single symptom and I was amazed at how they had me down to a tee.backbreaker said:god yes. it changed my life.
if you saw how detailed my to do list is, you would laugh, but i know myself if it's not that detailed I will sit outside with my dogs all day or spend all day at the horse track.. which is fun and somewhat productive but I am neglecting everything else. I had a woman one day at my door for 30 mintues because I forgot I had a date and wasn't home. that's how forgetful i can be.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.