“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Master Bates said:
I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dot said:
How did you do that? Sometimes I'm bad at getting myself fully immersed, even if I enjoy it. It's easier if I enjoy it, but still sometimes it happens when I do enjoy it.

I never completely got over it. I might very well have ADD. every once in a while, I still catch myself blowing complete days by doing absolutely nothing because I can't think about one thing for more than 5 mintues. But if I get up in the morning, and eat a good breakfast, work out, my mind is alot sharper. it's about cleaning the crap out of your mind. having a game plan set for the next day.

the more prepared I am to go into battle the next day, the more likely I am to succeed.
 

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You start to feel nauseous...? Are you hampered in your ability to interact with them, or does it just make your tummy feel bad? That doesn't sound like social anxiety to me.
 

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backbreaker said:
I never completely got over it. I might very well have ADD. every once in a while, I still catch myself blowing complete days by doing absolutely nothing because I can't think about one thing for more than 5 mintues. But if I get up in the morning, and eat a good breakfast, work out, my mind is alot sharper. it's about cleaning the crap out of your mind. having a game plan set for the next day.

the more prepared I am to go into battle the next day, the more likely I am to succeed.
So you think preparation helps a lot? Yeah I definitely some days where everything's off and I can't get things done.
 

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god yes. it changed my life.

if you saw how detailed my to do list is, you would laugh, but i know myself if it's not that detailed I will sit outside with my dogs all day or spend all day at the horse track.. which is fun and somewhat productive but I am neglecting everything else. I had a woman one day at my door for 30 mintues because I forgot I had a date and wasn't home. that's how forgetful i can be.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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backbreaker said:
god yes. it changed my life.

if you saw how detailed my to do list is, you would laugh, but i know myself if it's not that detailed I will sit outside with my dogs all day or spend all day at the horse track.. which is fun and somewhat productive but I am neglecting everything else. I had a woman one day at my door for 30 mintues because I forgot I had a date and wasn't home. that's how forgetful i can be.
I understand how u feel, cuz I've been diagnosed with ADD as well LOL. I'm sure many of you will say "oh you're making it up" but for real I have ADD I've even read a book on it which detailed every single symptom and I was amazed at how they had me down to a tee.

For all those interested, tonight was my first night out since being diagnosed with this 'disorder'. As another person mentioned, i think a more appropriate term is 'condition' since I believe this whole thing has manifested from a traumatic event that happened 6-7 months ago...and spiraled into a general social anxiety problem.

Anyways, I was a little nervous because now I knew that I had anxiety troubles. But at the same time knowing that I would have to work through this made it easier for some reason. Of course I was not my old self in terms of anxiety levels...but I tried to keep my stressors to a minimum and the night was great. Only for a couple brief periods did I feel nauseous and it was not a big deal at all I could handle it. It's only when I have that throw up feeling for like 30 minutes straight when it becomes a problem.

So yea...definitely still have anxiety issues but having knowledge of the problem made things much better and I had a very good night overall :)
I'm still gonna see a therapist about this...but at least in the meantime I can cope with these issues. And to think I was gonna take addicting medication...
 

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For all those interested (probably very few) it has been 3 months since my anxiety troubles have reached the extreme. Since then i have been seeing a therapist about twice a month, and I am doing much better. Apparently I was/am having panic attacks in certain social situations. In my case the physiological symptom was/is nausea.

With the help of cognitive therapy and breathing techniques, the length, frequency, and severity of my panic attacks have gradually decreased. I still have a long way to go until I am back to my old self (therapist said it will take a while to fully recovery since the roots of the anxiety have been going on for about 8 months or so) but I am definitely seeing improvement. As long as I continue to get better and better I will be very happy :)
 

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What was it that triggered your anxiety a few months back?
 
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Try this tapping stuff. I had the same thing as you and this more or less got rid of it. Some people would say it doesnt make sense but they havent tryed it. Its complety free aswell so it isnt someone tryna make money off you're misfourtune. Give it a try for awhile and I garentee you'll see results.

http://www.tapping.com/
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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