Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.Master Bates said:I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah prescription drugs barely fix anything.Master Bates said:I'm not going to delude myself into thinking the fix is in a prescription medication, though.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
dot said:How did you do that? Sometimes I'm bad at getting myself fully immersed, even if I enjoy it. It's easier if I enjoy it, but still sometimes it happens when I do enjoy it.
So you think preparation helps a lot? Yeah I definitely some days where everything's off and I can't get things done.backbreaker said:I never completely got over it. I might very well have ADD. every once in a while, I still catch myself blowing complete days by doing absolutely nothing because I can't think about one thing for more than 5 mintues. But if I get up in the morning, and eat a good breakfast, work out, my mind is alot sharper. it's about cleaning the crap out of your mind. having a game plan set for the next day.
the more prepared I am to go into battle the next day, the more likely I am to succeed.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I understand how u feel, cuz I've been diagnosed with ADD as well LOL. I'm sure many of you will say "oh you're making it up" but for real I have ADD I've even read a book on it which detailed every single symptom and I was amazed at how they had me down to a tee.backbreaker said:god yes. it changed my life.
if you saw how detailed my to do list is, you would laugh, but i know myself if it's not that detailed I will sit outside with my dogs all day or spend all day at the horse track.. which is fun and somewhat productive but I am neglecting everything else. I had a woman one day at my door for 30 mintues because I forgot I had a date and wasn't home. that's how forgetful i can be.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.