I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah I am but with good reason; I have social difficulties that are caused by my biology. But I don't even give a fvck about that right now, what's the point in complaining about something I can't control?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That usually happens when your motivated and focused on winning the girl so badly that you will not eat and lose sleep over the smallest of things that couldn’t hamper your chances of winning the girl. Check out deep breathing exercises on YouTube and be positive at all times. Think about what can go right instead of what can go wrong.
I just have this awkward, timid quality that I probably inherited from my mother's side of the family and the girl noticed it and called me out on it. I was trying to make like I was cool but it obviously didn't work.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yes, but there will be others. As @DEEZEDBRAH a new lady turns 18 every day. Just remember, failure is your best teacher. Start with the lessor attractive ladies and move of the line. Ladies have a sixth sense in detecting if other ladies have fvcked you or not. Pvssy attracts pvssy. Need to work on that confidence though.
Unless you really have interesting and positive stories, less is more. Be more aloof than talkative.
Very true my friend, I think Roosh says something like that too. Start low and work your way up while you increase your own value.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hmm...micropenis??
He's not a troll, just a lost dude. Sometimes @marmel75, you can be a bit too harsh on the new SS members here.
I definitely need to start teaching classes on how to spot a troll...just go back and read some of the ridiculous over the top crazy stuff posted in this and other threads by OP...trolls tend to post fantastical encounters and go to the extremes...OP certainly checks all the boxes for troll.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
He sounds so much like a lot of the newbie posters, I do not think so, but nothing is 100%
I'm not a troll I just don't want to lose another opportunity for a girlfriend
1st step - stop having oneitis on a lady. Guess what, there are billions of them. It goes back to your self esteem.
stop thinking its a opportunity to get a GF then maybe you will get one, you are not doing the first rule of dating, HAVE FUN, I will not even consider the troll thing because if you are a troll you are losing your time, and any newbie who read this will always think there is someone worse then me, if not you have a lot of work ahead
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
