Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yeah I am but with good reason; I have social difficulties that are caused by my biology. But I don't even give a fvck about that right now, what's the point in complaining about something I can't control?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That usually happens when your motivated and focused on winning the girl so badly that you will not eat and lose sleep over the smallest of things that couldn’t hamper your chances of winning the girl. Check out deep breathing exercises on YouTube and be positive at all times. Think about what can go right instead of what can go wrong.
I just have this awkward, timid quality that I probably inherited from my mother's side of the family and the girl noticed it and called me out on it. I was trying to make like I was cool but it obviously didn't work.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yes, but there will be others. As @DEEZEDBRAH a new lady turns 18 every day. Just remember, failure is your best teacher. Start with the lessor attractive ladies and move of the line. Ladies have a sixth sense in detecting if other ladies have fvcked you or not. Pvssy attracts pvssy. Need to work on that confidence though.
Unless you really have interesting and positive stories, less is more. Be more aloof than talkative.
Very true my friend, I think Roosh says something like that too. Start low and work your way up while you increase your own value.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hmm...micropenis??
He's not a troll, just a lost dude. Sometimes @marmel75, you can be a bit too harsh on the new SS members here.
I definitely need to start teaching classes on how to spot a troll...just go back and read some of the ridiculous over the top crazy stuff posted in this and other threads by OP...trolls tend to post fantastical encounters and go to the extremes...OP certainly checks all the boxes for troll.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
He sounds so much like a lot of the newbie posters, I do not think so, but nothing is 100%
I'm not a troll I just don't want to lose another opportunity for a girlfriend
1st step - stop having oneitis on a lady. Guess what, there are billions of them. It goes back to your self esteem.
stop thinking its a opportunity to get a GF then maybe you will get one, you are not doing the first rule of dating, HAVE FUN, I will not even consider the troll thing because if you are a troll you are losing your time, and any newbie who read this will always think there is someone worse then me, if not you have a lot of work ahead
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
