CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
Is this a valid point or just an absurd observation?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…I would think it has more to do with demographics and political policies concerning law enforcement. I'm in SF so I know first hand that the latter has a big effect.
Or San Fran could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple...SF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…
What’s black pill stuff to you?Hold on, you're anti red pill but you're cool with black pill stuff?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Have you lived in SF proper? Or is your opinion not first hand?Or the city could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple: Hire a Sheriff
Visited several timesHave you lived in SF proper? Or is your opinion not first hand?
.... had to correct that for you.SF needs a complete overhaul top to bottom.
Not sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.Visited several times
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I have fam in the Bay Area. It's 7 million and the microcosms are all full of crappy dating attitudes until you get out to the central valley.Not sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.
Ask @Hamurabimbi and the others who actually live here.
The city of SF is much different than Palo Alto, Oakland, San Jose, Marin, Fremont, etc all are part of the SF Bay Area and microcosms of their own.
Those who don’t or haven’t lived here say SF and they mean SF Bay Area. ~800k in SF, ~4.6 million in the SF Bay Area.
I’ve found most of the opinions about SF here are from Fox News.
I didn't anticipate my original reply ("San Fran could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple... Hire a Sheriff"*)being taken so literally. For whatever it's worth, a recently published screed on this subject has been making the rounds for awhileNot sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.
Ask @Hamurabimbi and the others who actually live here.
The city of SF is much different than Palo Alto, Oakland, San Jose, Marin, Fremont, etc all are part of the SF Bay Area and microcosms of their own.
Those who don’t or haven’t lived here say SF and they mean SF Bay Area. ~800k in SF, ~4.6 million in the SF Bay Area.
I’ve found most of the opinions about SF here are from Fox News.
It depends what you consider the Bay Area. Anything east of the east bay mountain range is not in the Bay Area, although it calls itself that to try to get Bay Area real estate valuation.I have fam in the Bay Area. It's 7 million and the microcosms are all full of crappy dating attitudes until you get out to the central valley.
But back to the OP, females tend to be progressive (i.e., permissive) more so than males, so it's a "the sky is blue" kind of thing.
Leave it to Corn to take something obvious and propose it is absurd.
But then again, that's a good idea for a TV Pilot - Leave It To Corn.
@CornbreadFed, what do you think?
And San Fran doesn't by any means hold a monopoly on horrific events. Just today, the following occurred in AnaheimSF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You sir, have a very bizarre sense of humor
"Morbid", "Grim", and "Macabre" might actually be more apt. So much so, that I'm only sharing my riff on Boy Meets World alum Trina McGee getting knocked up at age 54 here https://thefreespeechforum.com/thre...-on-boy-meets-world-is-54-and-pregnant.24777/You sir, have a very bizarre sense of humor... Morose might be a suitable adjective.
Most of my references aren't pop cultural, for whatever consolation that provides. Everyone has a choice to either destroy their remaining grey matter playing The X Box, or to enrich their minds, by watching the educational vids and links I've provided. No judgment either waySeriously @BaronOfHair - reading and trying to put together the endless pop culture references and the idea of watching all the videos and reading all the URL's you post in a single post makes my resting heart rate go from 58 to 94 sometimes.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.