CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
Is this a valid point or just an absurd observation?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…I would think it has more to do with demographics and political policies concerning law enforcement. I'm in SF so I know first hand that the latter has a big effect.
Or San Fran could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple...SF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…
What’s black pill stuff to you?Hold on, you're anti red pill but you're cool with black pill stuff?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Have you lived in SF proper? Or is your opinion not first hand?Or the city could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple: Hire a Sheriff
Visited several timesHave you lived in SF proper? Or is your opinion not first hand?
.... had to correct that for you.SF needs a complete overhaul top to bottom.
Not sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.Visited several times
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I have fam in the Bay Area. It's 7 million and the microcosms are all full of crappy dating attitudes until you get out to the central valley.Not sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.
Ask @Hamurabimbi and the others who actually live here.
The city of SF is much different than Palo Alto, Oakland, San Jose, Marin, Fremont, etc all are part of the SF Bay Area and microcosms of their own.
Those who don’t or haven’t lived here say SF and they mean SF Bay Area. ~800k in SF, ~4.6 million in the SF Bay Area.
I’ve found most of the opinions about SF here are from Fox News.
I didn't anticipate my original reply ("San Fran could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple... Hire a Sheriff"*)being taken so literally. For whatever it's worth, a recently published screed on this subject has been making the rounds for awhileNot sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.
Ask @Hamurabimbi and the others who actually live here.
The city of SF is much different than Palo Alto, Oakland, San Jose, Marin, Fremont, etc all are part of the SF Bay Area and microcosms of their own.
Those who don’t or haven’t lived here say SF and they mean SF Bay Area. ~800k in SF, ~4.6 million in the SF Bay Area.
I’ve found most of the opinions about SF here are from Fox News.
It depends what you consider the Bay Area. Anything east of the east bay mountain range is not in the Bay Area, although it calls itself that to try to get Bay Area real estate valuation.I have fam in the Bay Area. It's 7 million and the microcosms are all full of crappy dating attitudes until you get out to the central valley.
But back to the OP, females tend to be progressive (i.e., permissive) more so than males, so it's a "the sky is blue" kind of thing.
Leave it to Corn to take something obvious and propose it is absurd.
But then again, that's a good idea for a TV Pilot - Leave It To Corn.
@CornbreadFed, what do you think?
And San Fran doesn't by any means hold a monopoly on horrific events. Just today, the following occurred in AnaheimSF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You sir, have a very bizarre sense of humor
"Morbid", "Grim", and "Macabre" might actually be more apt. So much so, that I'm only sharing my riff on Boy Meets World alum Trina McGee getting knocked up at age 54 here https://thefreespeechforum.com/thre...-on-boy-meets-world-is-54-and-pregnant.24777/You sir, have a very bizarre sense of humor... Morose might be a suitable adjective.
Most of my references aren't pop cultural, for whatever consolation that provides. Everyone has a choice to either destroy their remaining grey matter playing The X Box, or to enrich their minds, by watching the educational vids and links I've provided. No judgment either waySeriously @BaronOfHair - reading and trying to put together the endless pop culture references and the idea of watching all the videos and reading all the URL's you post in a single post makes my resting heart rate go from 58 to 94 sometimes.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.