CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
Is this a valid point or just an absurd observation?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…I would think it has more to do with demographics and political policies concerning law enforcement. I'm in SF so I know first hand that the latter has a big effect.
Or San Fran could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple...SF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…
What’s black pill stuff to you?Hold on, you're anti red pill but you're cool with black pill stuff?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Have you lived in SF proper? Or is your opinion not first hand?Or the city could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple: Hire a Sheriff
Visited several timesHave you lived in SF proper? Or is your opinion not first hand?
.... had to correct that for you.SF needs a complete overhaul top to bottom.
Not sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.Visited several times
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have fam in the Bay Area. It's 7 million and the microcosms are all full of crappy dating attitudes until you get out to the central valley.Not sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.
Ask @Hamurabimbi and the others who actually live here.
The city of SF is much different than Palo Alto, Oakland, San Jose, Marin, Fremont, etc all are part of the SF Bay Area and microcosms of their own.
Those who don’t or haven’t lived here say SF and they mean SF Bay Area. ~800k in SF, ~4.6 million in the SF Bay Area.
I’ve found most of the opinions about SF here are from Fox News.
I didn't anticipate my original reply ("San Fran could just rename itself Nottingham. By extension, rectifying the dilemma the city currently finds itself in becomes quite simple... Hire a Sheriff"*)being taken so literally. For whatever it's worth, a recently published screed on this subject has been making the rounds for awhileNot sure that qualifies as a robust experience to be able to truly opine on a place. The way one experiences a spot you visit is very different than than the experience of those who live there.
Ask @Hamurabimbi and the others who actually live here.
The city of SF is much different than Palo Alto, Oakland, San Jose, Marin, Fremont, etc all are part of the SF Bay Area and microcosms of their own.
Those who don’t or haven’t lived here say SF and they mean SF Bay Area. ~800k in SF, ~4.6 million in the SF Bay Area.
I’ve found most of the opinions about SF here are from Fox News.
It depends what you consider the Bay Area. Anything east of the east bay mountain range is not in the Bay Area, although it calls itself that to try to get Bay Area real estate valuation.I have fam in the Bay Area. It's 7 million and the microcosms are all full of crappy dating attitudes until you get out to the central valley.
But back to the OP, females tend to be progressive (i.e., permissive) more so than males, so it's a "the sky is blue" kind of thing.
Leave it to Corn to take something obvious and propose it is absurd.
But then again, that's a good idea for a TV Pilot - Leave It To Corn.
@CornbreadFed, what do you think?
And San Fran doesn't by any means hold a monopoly on horrific events. Just today, the following occurred in AnaheimSF needs a new DA, they’re the ones that dictate most things related to crime and how it’s prosecuted, if at all…
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You sir, have a very bizarre sense of humor
"Morbid", "Grim", and "Macabre" might actually be more apt. So much so, that I'm only sharing my riff on Boy Meets World alum Trina McGee getting knocked up at age 54 here https://thefreespeechforum.com/thre...-on-boy-meets-world-is-54-and-pregnant.24777/You sir, have a very bizarre sense of humor... Morose might be a suitable adjective.
Most of my references aren't pop cultural, for whatever consolation that provides. Everyone has a choice to either destroy their remaining grey matter playing The X Box, or to enrich their minds, by watching the educational vids and links I've provided. No judgment either waySeriously @BaronOfHair - reading and trying to put together the endless pop culture references and the idea of watching all the videos and reading all the URL's you post in a single post makes my resting heart rate go from 58 to 94 sometimes.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.