"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)

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Shoutout to this thread.

Thanks for the tip @cola regarding the beard. I’m using the next guard up a 1/8”. Beard looks darker. It’s true light skinned black men get a good contrast with a darker beard.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Of course, no one would ever admit they do anything to feel assured of their masculinity. But here is what you just said with my bolding for emphasis:



What else is that but assuring your masculinity through paying for the woman? Just admit it, Uncle Atom. It's no problem.



So it's OK to "not display leadership" and "be as weak as weak can possibly be" by spending insignificant amounts of money on a woman when you are making a first impression on her, but not later on, when you must switch over to spending more on her? And how does that mesh with you saying you should "display leadership and dominance" - masculinity - "right off the bat" by "paying for her", in the quote above?

Would she stop desiring you if you didn't pay for her?
You're too young to catch the nuances, methinks. Asserting and leveraging inherent masculinity is not the same thing as trying to self-assure about one's own masculinity. It is rather the exercise of a power that one already possesses.

I perceive that you are stretching very far in your quest to undermine my assertions. My writings are most assuredly not for you.
 

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Since we've seen pics of Big Dave and Big Goal, we know they are not the same person. Big Dave was just a narcisist, BigGoal isn't one. Though, he does think he deserves a high caliber lady, when he himself isn't a high caliber dude yet.
Fake pics. He's just taking a different angle. You're forgetting that big Dave was a master troll who had a history of making several accounts on another forum before this one

Look at the similarities... both complain about location constantly, both ignore posts that don't enable their way of thinking. Both repeat the same talking points over and over. Both always answer any advice you give them with question upon question that's already been explained
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fake pics. He's just taking a different angle. You're forgetting that big Dave was a master troll who had a history of making several accounts on another forum before this one

Look at the similarities... both complain about location constantly, both ignore posts that don't enable their way of thinking. Both repeat the same talking points over and over. Both always answer any advice you give them with question upon question that's already been explained
Nah, Seekeroftheway told me she was going to meet BG for drinks, but blew it. He was too needy and FBing her like a MF. He's really in Florida and he really is the way he acts... Lost.
 

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Nah, Seekeroftheway told me she was going to meet BG for drinks, but blew it. He was too needy and FBing her like a MF. He's really in Florida and he really is the way he acts... Lost.
How do you know big Dave was real? How do you know THAT wasn't the alias all along and big goal is HIM, and big Dave was the fake pics... I'm just saying
 

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How do you know big Dave was real? How do you know THAT wasn't the alias all along and big goal is HIM, and big Dave was the fake pics... I'm just saying
He knew a lot about Chicagoland. BG doesn't even know where Chicagoland is located.
 

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He knew a lot about Chicagoland. BG doesn't even know where Chicagoland is located.
Hmmm...what's funny is that I do remember him speaking about Illinois before, but I can't remember what he said. I think he was searching that area on OLD or something...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hmmm...what's funny is that I do remember him speaking about Illinois before, but I can't remember what he said. I think he was searching that area on OLD or something...
I'm from St. Louis originally.
 

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Hmmm...what's funny is that I do remember him speaking about Illinois before, but I can't remember what he said. I think he was searching that area on OLD or something...
I remember he was selling cars in the area. Greatest car salesman in the world, or something like that.
 

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Here is a better chest pic I took right after a shower tonight before I shaved.

What exercises for my chest would be good to focus on? As you can see I have no fat hardly and pretty flat stomach. It just needs some muscle.

 

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Yea I remember that, I was talking about big goal

Interesting...Have you been to Illinois before
Never chi. Just when I was small when I parents bought lotto tickets there before MO had the lotto and when I passed through there when moving out of state. The place is a communist anti gun dump so I always avoided it when living up there when driving.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Here is a better chest pic I took right after a shower tonight before I shaved.

What exercises for my chest would be good to focus on? As you can see I have no fat hardly and pretty flat stomach. It just needs some muscle.

Do you chew your finger nails?
 

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Last time I was on Bumble (1-2 years ago), all the women in my area were HB8/9, white, and all 5'9-6'0. At first I thought the algorithm was trolling me. I'm not talking about 1 or 2, I'm talking about nonstop 20-30 of these. None with kids though. I was also in NY btw.
hookers/massage/camgirl
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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