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Ok @lamath and @cola , here's the part where it gets not so pretty though. I still have most of my strength and muscle from my Stronglifts 5x5 days. But I've ruined myself through to much beer, bar food, and bad nutrition. I have love handles and tbh I'm pretty fat.

I'm eating clean, managing my time, and dieting down. I'm glad I at least have my muscle and strength.

Two Questions:
1.) Can I fix all this within a year you think?
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2.) Is it impossible to pull effectively while in this state? It's my last year of college so I want to go big pvssy wise. Unfortunately I'm overweight, am I screwed? I've been doing what some members here say to get this fat off me.

With a bit more strength and fat loss I can see a really good body under here. But right now, I'm just fat unfortunately.

Yes it is possible man, i looked exactly like that when i was 18-19 then i discovered the gym.
 

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Ok @lamath and @cola , here's the part where it gets not so pretty though. I still have most of my strength and muscle from my Stronglifts 5x5 days. But I've ruined myself through to much beer, bar food, and bad nutrition. I have love handles and tbh I'm pretty fat.

I'm eating clean, managing my time, and dieting down. I'm glad I at least have my muscle and strength.

Two Questions:
1.) Can I fix all this within a year you think?
and
2.) Is it impossible to pull effectively while in this state? It's my last year of college so I want to go big pvssy wise. Unfortunately I'm overweight, am I screwed? I've been doing what some members here say to get this fat off me.

With a bit more strength and fat loss I can see a really good body under here. But right now, I'm just fat unfortunately.

You might be heavy but looking at your body type you have all the tools to work with to get some really good results. While overweight, your body just hides it well. Even if you can't hardcore strength train due to school doesn't your school have a gym for students? If so even use the bike or treadmill a few times a week to at least get some of the weight off if you don't have time. Even if you just lost 15lbs I would think you'd still be able to get some dates. You're not obese, and with right clothing you'd be able to cover the fat up.
 

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Other than that, I just need to keep my ass in the gym and not eat too much bullsh*t for my looks. Any tips?
Honestly bro, the biggest thing is to just do it. You just gotta start, and stick with it even though it sucks. I just finished a meal of rice, chicken, and broccoli. No salt except on the chicken lol. If I ever need to cut, I just do a mini cut and don’t eat for a day or so. I don’t ever do this for pleasure.

There are two things though that may help, but like I said, you gotta do the work in the first and in nutrition too. Firstly, don’t do a standard diet/cut where you just eat less calories throughout the day. Eat less calories, yes, but make sure to eat them all at once. You preserve muscle 4x more when you are losing weight via fasting than if you lose weight via standard methods. Plus, you'll actually feel full when you finally do eat since eating an actual meal is more filling than little bits teasing you throughout the day.

Secondly, don’t eat for several hours after you work out. This is because of the ‘afterburn effect’. 2-3 hours after a workout, your testosterone levels rise like hell. I’d probably go at least 4 hours after without eating just to maximize the effect, but that’s just me. You might actually feel it where you suddenly feel super hot and irritable lol. You might blame it on being hungry, but it’s really not lol. Unfortunately though, this tip requires you to work out earlier on the day.

You’re also not gonna be gaining muscle in this way. You might actually lose some strength in the process too. It’s just that you’ll lose a disproportionate amount of fat in the process so I’d say it’s worth it.
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As a side note, I think you’d look better in those larger diamond studs, like cubic zirconia ones I guess. But that’s just me. I personally don’t wear any jewelry at all so take it as you will.
1.) Can I fix all this within a year you think?
You could fix it within 6 months if you really grind, maybe even less than that if you’re really motivated. David Goggins lost 106 lbs in 3 months so I think you can definitely do it within that time frame really.
The contacts thing never worked for me unfortunately haha. I just really suck at putting them in/taking them out.
You gotta get contacts bro, otherwise you’ll be more like a Steve Urkel than a sophisticated Tyrone lol. I sucked with mine at first too, but we all learn. Takes some people 4 hours on their first try to put them in and take them out at first, but we all get used to it.
 

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Ok @lamath and @cola , here's the part where it gets not so pretty though. I still have most of my strength and muscle from my Stronglifts 5x5 days. But I've ruined myself through to much beer, bar food, and bad nutrition. I have love handles and tbh I'm pretty fat.

I'm eating clean, managing my time, and dieting down. I'm glad I at least have my muscle and strength.

Two Questions:
1.) Can I fix all this within a year you think?
and
2.) Is it impossible to pull effectively while in this state? It's my last year of college so I want to go big pvssy wise. Unfortunately I'm overweight, am I screwed? I've been doing what some members here say to get this fat off me.

With a bit more strength and fat loss I can see a really good body under here. But right now, I'm just fat unfortunately.

I can tell by your frame you will put on muscle easily.. start running full court basketball 3-4 days a week. Doesn’t matter if you are good, hustle on every play to get that weight down.

I’ve used it myself, and watched a kid drop 40 lbs in 2 months just playing ball.
Look up starting strength 5 x 5. Do that as well I believe it’s 3-4 days a week all compounds. Best beginner workout out there, simple and effective.

That looks like baby fat, we gotta get that off.
 

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I dunno, but some of the more respected posters on here just say wear simple jeans and a t shirt, nothing fancy or god awful expensive, especially on first dates or you look like a brand hog.

I think for older posters over 30 that's true, but if you're in college you gotta be a brand jog. In high school it was all about wearing brand name clothes.
It’s easy to miss the point.

Being congruent is a fundamental inner quality that gets expressed through body shape, type and clothing.

There’s a spectrum of differentiation that is available through direct observation and an open mind.

Style is interlinked with a sexy stereotype. A simple t-shirt and jeans can be put together a number of different ways depending on whether the ‘look’ is surfer, rocker, latin lover, jock, skater, punk, builder, etc.

Style and brands are not the same thing. Someone can be a corporate billboard and not really have any style at all. One can have style and not be fronting with brands

A sexy stereotype is imprinted in a girl’s psyche when she becomes aware of male sexuality and it can open women as turn them off, before you even have eye contact or say anything.

Building/maintaining one’s physique is also an expression of the masculine traits of good genes, discipline and ambition.

It’s a good place to start and sometimes guys think that is all there is but there’s more.
 
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The pic with the hoodie shows what calibration with color can do. He is a fall and jewel colors work well. From far way the beard pulls the gaze in due to the framing of the face, then the eyes pop. Super magnetic.

The hoodie’s fabric has detail and creates finer calibration.

Depending on identity and sexy stereotype, it can either add congruence or not.

Hoodies are typically associated with youth.

Slight adornment with tasteful jewelry would add a bit of ‘glint.’
 

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6'1, 200 lbs, 22 years old. Although I get looked at and get approached often, my main issue is that most people seem to think that I'm 30 or in my late 20's and they can't seem to shake off the fact that I'm 22 lol. Just finished school and going back and about to secure a good income with a couple jobs. In the process of moving out as well.
The first pic with fitted dress shirt and rolled up sleeves presents and brings out his masculine physique. He has some adornment with necklace and watch which can be commented upon.

Depending on his identity and sexy stereotype; the choice of coat/overlayer, piecerings, belt/buckle, patterned socks and shoes would add further calibration.
 

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I don't have anything to offer on the training side, but just to show to some of you that getting older is not so much a problem if you are looking after yourself, with moderate training and healthy diet, and very important, minimal stress. (or maybe it's just genetic? ) . I always get comments that I'm looking 10 years younger.
Shirt is too baggy in arms and around waist.
Depending on identity and sexy stereotype, marure men have the option of conveying youthfulness or stature and sophistication.

Fingers in pocket subcomms submissiveness. Better to have just the thumbs in or hands open and by the sides.
 
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I have reservations about posting images on line. However, there is too much positivity in this thread not to partake. This is me. Age 30. My biggest liability in dating has always been height and stature. I'm genetically short and skinny (5'7, 135 lbs pre-lifting). In these photos I'm 165 lbs.

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V neck is good, fit shows off arms and is fitted around waist same shirt with darker color would bring out skin tone and face.

Exposing forearms, losing the grin, and adding adornment be the next step but it all is about conveying identity.
 

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Gaining some muscle and roughening up your look a little will probably help YOU out tremendously. Don’t take it the wrong way, but you have an excessive happy-go-lucky look about you, like a goofy playful dog that just can’t wait for you to throw the ball.

Maybe fun, but not at all sexy.

I’m not saying dress up like white trash, but you need more of a rougher edge without question. Slick and stylish won’t work for you.

Hit the weights. Grow something on your face, even if just a goatee or a shadow. Faded jeans and a t-shirt. Old ball cap or something. Dirty up a little.

For you I would say aim for something like this:

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You need something to contrast that look I talked about, because you’ll never get rid of it. It’s part of who you are. Contrast will make it work. But all on its own it will hold you back.
This look is congruent and conveys a sexy stereotype of edgy good ‘ol boy with badboy flavor. The dirty ball cap, gold-framed glasses brings out beard color and skin tone. The cowboy t-shirt with arm tattoo, being in a truck and the gaze into distance demonstrates that one doesn’t need brands for style.

For finer calibration, complimentary shirt color with the eyes and possibly a thin leather based bracelet
 
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Yeah I’ve got those too.

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Great pic, pulls one right into your eyes. Color highlight in the hair, the stubble, half-arm crossed and facial expression are all congruent. Masculine yet reserved, conveys a deeper mystery.
With this presentation, a woman would be excited to intuit a deeper you.
A deeper v-neck (possibly) and minimal adornment would be the only thing to finer calibrate.
 
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dont get me wrong, im very straight... but @Amante Silvestre is a fvcking hunk.
im super jealous and attracted, id nearly fvck you... fine Sir. [insert laughing face gif]

Bravo on your hard effort (no pun intended)

@Ohso-Phresh thanks for the subjective analysis
 

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I had to google 360 waves. I know we're from different cultures etc etc but tbh it looks very strange to me

Beard will come after age 25. Androgens will also reshape your face and redistribute fat better

Same thing happened to me. I look way better at 31 than I did at 23
Yeah, in my culture 360 waves are awesome. They increase your looks/swag cause it basically shows that you take care of your hair. If you have waves, instant +1 to your looks. I know that cause when I have waves the girls always respond to me better. It's just the equivalent of having "good hair" I guess, and we all know you need good hair to get girls lol.

Some people take waves SUPER seriously. Like getting them 100% perfectly connected. To do that, you'd have to spend about an hour brushing your hair in the mirror each day. I'm always tired and stressed after school so I don't have the patience, I think mine are good enough rn to feel good about myself and fvck some b*tches. I just relax after school for like 45 minutes and brush my hair while watching TV. That's more than enough to get some pretty good 360 waves and it's sustainable.
 

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Yes it is possible man, i looked exactly like that when i was 18-19 then i discovered the gym.
Thanks lamath. The hardest part for me is keeping my nutrition clean when I'm stressed from school or at low sleep. But I know you have to keep the good nutrition going even then.
 

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You might be heavy but looking at your body type you have all the tools to work with to get some really good results. While overweight, your body just hides it well. Even if you can't hardcore strength train due to school doesn't your school have a gym for students? If so even use the bike or treadmill a few times a week to at least get some of the weight off if you don't have time. Even if you just lost 15lbs I would think you'd still be able to get some dates. You're not obese, and with right clothing you'd be able to cover the fat up.
Thanks BG. I still lift. I'm cleaning my diet up and I try and sneak in some cardio sessions too.
 

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Honestly bro, the biggest thing is to just do it. You just gotta start, and stick with it even though it sucks. I just finished a meal of rice, chicken, and broccoli. No salt except on the chicken lol. If I ever need to cut, I just do a mini cut and don’t eat for a day or so. I don’t ever do this for pleasure.

There are two things though that may help, but like I said, you gotta do the work in the first and in nutrition too. Firstly, don’t do a standard diet/cut where you just eat less calories throughout the day. Eat less calories, yes, but make sure to eat them all at once. You preserve muscle 4x more when you are losing weight via fasting than if you lose weight via standard methods. Plus, you'll actually feel full when you finally do eat since eating an actual meal is more filling than little bits teasing you throughout the day.

Secondly, don’t eat for several hours after you work out. This is because of the ‘afterburn effect’. 2-3 hours after a workout, your testosterone levels rise like hell. I’d probably go at least 4 hours after without eating just to maximize the effect, but that’s just me. You might actually feel it where you suddenly feel super hot and irritable lol. You might blame it on being hungry, but it’s really not lol. Unfortunately though, this tip requires you to work out earlier on the day.

You’re also not gonna be gaining muscle in this way. You might actually lose some strength in the process too. It’s just that you’ll lose a disproportionate amount of fat in the process so I’d say it’s worth it.
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As a side note, I think you’d look better in those larger diamond studs, like cubic zirconia ones I guess. But that’s just me. I personally don’t wear any jewelry at all so take it as you will.

You could fix it within 6 months if you really grind, maybe even less than that if you’re really motivated. David Goggins lost 106 lbs in 3 months so I think you can definitely do it within that time frame really.

You gotta get contacts bro, otherwise you’ll be more like a Steve Urkel than a sophisticated Tyrone lol. I sucked with mine at first too, but we all learn. Takes some people 4 hours on their first try to put them in and take them out at first, but we all get used to it.
Thanks for the info bro. That definitely helps out. I'll give this diet stuff that you're talking about a spin.

As long as I can squat 225 for reps that's enough strength for me. My priority numero uno fitness wise is getting this fat off me, while looking decently aesthetic.

Yeah I've read his book. Goggins is so amazing. I learned a lot from him. To be real with you, I pretty much need to do a whole life transformation like Goggins did. I have ten months instead of three: but I'm not training 24/7 like he did. So I need to eat healthy and overhaul basically everything.

Like I was saying earlier, it gets hard for me to eat healthy when I'm crunched for time at school, or have to stay up late for something. First, time management. But I've circumvented this by having healthier snacks. Whenever I have to stay up late to study and what have you not, I snack on vegetables instead of potato chips. Cause I'll have to sleep eventually. And that way I'm not accruing a junk food debt.

I'll try out the contacts again. This is gonna be rough haha
 
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