I understand the desire to do something like that, and it might make them mad, but usually, ends up: 1) justifying to the other person why they treated you as they did and 2) confirming to the other person why you are a waste of their time and why they are better off without you.
Revenge in that context is self soothing, that’s it. Think about it. If a you did a girl wrong and she went and slept with your best friend as revenge, are you going to think, “Wow, I made a mistake. She really taught me a lesson. I should of been nicer to her, my loss.”
No lol.
I really do feel that, for growth and mental well being to simply move on with your life and not waste a minute of your time and energy on someone who doesn’t care about your feelings anyway. They don’t deserve your emotions.
I posted this once before somewhere and I do agree with you on a point in this comment AJ.
When my ex cheated it was the end of a slow degrade that as a man I tried to avert. But to no avail. At first I was sad, then angry. I went out and fukked a string of women. Up to about eight maybe. It wasn’t hard. If fact it was rather easy. No hog heads either.
Looking back it really isn’t a good decision if you want to “get even” with someone. It felt amazing at the time but it lacked something of course. No real connection. I decided that I wanted the connection. Otherwise it’s just sex. That’s easy to get.
I don’t know what effect it had on her. I never asked. But I personally don’t recommend it if you are holding a grudge. It kinda messes you you. It sets in stone the precepts and ideas that will hinder a man later. This is the man who is bitter. Because it won’t heal until you find the man inside.
Comments, ideas, reading different things, all contribute to it. If you want yourself back...be careful of what you start to believe. Chances are it’s just your hurt little pvssy inside.
Now I don’t feel anything when I think of her. She is a non person in my life. Zero emotion. Not out of anger or hurt but because my ignorance caused it in many ways. Still, she is responsible for those she sleeps with.