backbreaker
Master Don Juan
1. cold call the phone book.
2. service logs
3. service bay
2. service logs
3. service bay
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
backbreaker said:when i say i can sale condoms to a nunnery I can sale anything. the key to dealing with an objection is to 1. understnad what they are objecting to and 2. understand their motives
a person comes to the lot they say they are just looking. okay.
1. if you watch them, the very first thing they got out on the lot and saw is what they came to see. the rest is just to pass on the i'm just looking facade. no one comes to the lot with NOTHING in mind. come on. whatever they get there and the first thing they go to is what they wanted to see
2. a person who says htey are just looking they are telling you they don't like to be pressured. so what i do is i changed the subject to nothing to do with cars. find something to shoot the **** with. our lot was right next to a movie theater so i would ask are they just killing time until they go tot he movies most were, and we'd start talking about movies. I sold a few cars like that. that night. i made one guy miss his movie he came to go see, sold him a blue RX8.
but even if they don't buy anything or don't want really talk about buying something don't push it. stay shooting the **** mode, beucase you are planting the seed in their mind that you aren't going to pressure cook them. and when they ARE ready to buy, they will come looking for you beucase they know they are going to have the experience they want. I 'd get 3-4 of these a month guys just out of the blue pop up with my card and i talked to them and now they are ready to buy.
some people you got to pressure. the guy who you know is ready to buy a car but doesn't know about ****, can't make a decision for him self you got to pressure cook that guy or he will never guy. you have tom ake the decision for him. but you don't pressure cook the i'm just looking guy.
the last day i ever sold cars i sold this older woman a yellow honda S2000 and i think i had netted like 2400 dollars or something i had about 650 dollars coming to me frmo the deal. not a real big deal but one i would take 7 days a week. anyway, i get my comission c heck, it's coming back as a mini deal (100 dollars).
this mother****er, the F and I guy, *****d out the markup on the car to sale his warranty package. we damn near went to blows over that ****. i said you know what, my business is making a little money now **** this **** i'm not slaving over this **** to get ripped off like this.
you are wasting your time working for a lot with a bad F and I guy
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Kupid Diggs said:Back breaker and AJ, can you gentlemen help me out? So here's my situation, I want to buy a new car in July. I have about 24k saved up. I really want to get an Acura ILX. The sticker price is about 26k. I think the average people are paying is about 24,500. What are some ways I can get the car at or below the MSRP price? I'll probably make a down payment of 15k and finance the rest.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nothing more annoying than a pushy car salesman who tries to close you right there and then. Whenever that happens, I usually walk away and go to another dealership.BeginningDJ said:Selling cars is like clubbing, if you don't close the first time, you won't see them again.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.