"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Calorie deficit

bigwuz

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Going into a calorie deficit got a lot of weight to lose (30lbs) I'm feeling a little low on energy though any tips. I should add I'm doing the strong lifts program and I walk everyday 5 miles and work early :-(
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The_flying_dutchman

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you're on the right track. My best advice would be don't go too crazy on the caloric deficit because it's counter-productive -- you lose water weight at first, but then inevitably you'll binge and gain back all the weight plus interest... most men need around 2000 calories per day just to maintain a constant weight.

I would say drop your calories to around 1700 and continue doing the light cardio (walking). Eventually your body will adapt to the walking and you'll need to change it up...

While walking, I recommend dropping down and doing pushups every 2-5 minutes so that it spikes your heart rate.
 

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If you are 30+ lbs overweight, do not drop your cals to 1700 straight away.

Can you give me your current weight and height.
 

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I am overweight but not unhealthy it's hard to explain I'm in good health just feel like I can be ripped if I wanted to I'm 5'6 200lbs fat and muscle
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am overweight but not unhealthy it's hard to explain I'm in good health just feel like I can be ripped if I wanted to I'm 5'6 200lbs fat and muscle
Also the walking is easy for me except I'm not getting enough sleep because I work a lot
 

amazingswayze

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Also the walking is easy for me except I'm not getting enough sleep because I work a lot
at your height, i would drop the 30 lbs you mentioned. just dont do anything drastic. download the lose it app. it will give you a daily calorie budget with the deficit you need. you can set your goal as losing either 2lbs a week or 1.5/1/.5 lbs. this app has helped me lose 10+ lbs in the last few months. hold yourself accountable because weight loss is not easy.

GOOD LUCK!
 
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