Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Calling out Cola!

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Hi @cola

I read your thread about working in nightlife but I have a full time office job, typical 9 to 5 in the corporate world, any advice on how to go about working in nightlife?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sorry just seeing this.

Bartending school. Take bartending class get a certificate and hit the pavement.
Go to all the bars in your city and someone will hire you eventually.

Ask for owner/manager and tell them you are a new bartender and will work any night of the week.

If you are big enough to bounce same thing. Thats what I did.
Hit the pavement asked around and now I got 3 bouncing gigs.


A bar 1 night a week, strip club Fridays and Saturdays and a soccer league on Sundays


I look like a NFL linebacker so that helped though.. I'm 6'1 245.
If I wasn't a big guy id go the bartending route though.

Best to catch bar owners/managers right when they open. They won't be as receptive as the bar gets busy.
 
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wish you were a bouncer in my city cola! Haha
 

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Sorry just seeing this.

Bartending school. Take bartending class get a certificate and hit the pavement.
Go to all the bars in your city and someone will hire you eventually.

Ask for owner/manager and tell them you are a new bartender and will work any night of the week.

If you are big enough to bounce same thing. Thats what I did.
Hit the pavement asked around and now I got 3 bouncing gigs.


A bar 1 night a week, strip club Fridays and Saturdays and a soccer league on Sundays


I look like a NFL linebacker so that helped though.. I'm 6'1 245.
If I wasn't a big guy id go the bartending route though.

Best to catch bar owners/managers right when they open. They won't be as receptive as the bar gets busy.

I bet you get a lot of play

I know a bouncer not the best looking guy but he's always got a baddie or two

However I had another buddy who was a bouncer and he hated dealing with drunk people
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Come to Baltimore one weekend.
What is the market like in Baltimore right now?

I'm going there today for work. Might stay the night for the hell of it since its Friday.
 

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Sorry just seeing this.

Bartending school. Take bartending class get a certificate and hit the pavement.
Go to all the bars in your city and someone will hire you eventually.

Ask for owner/manager and tell them you are a new bartender and will work any night of the week.
Here are a few problems man

1. I cannot bartend any night of the week, I have a 9 to 5 and need to be at around 7 for work.

2. I want to get a gig at a decent bar or nightclub that draws in hot girls, new bars opening in my area are typically restaurant types that bring in older people for things like brunch and stuff.

Trying to find a way to work this out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Here are a few problems man

1. I cannot bartend any night of the week, I have a 9 to 5 and need to be at around 7 for work.

2. I want to get a gig at a decent bar or nightclub that draws in hot girls, new bars opening in my area are typically restaurant types that bring in older people for things like brunch and stuff.

Trying to find a way to work this out.
Why can't you bartend on Fridays and Saturdays?
Have Sundays to yourself to rest.

That's my current situation ..
Work day job M-F, bounce Friday and Saturday.
 

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Why can't you bartend on Fridays and Saturdays?
Have Sundays to yourself to rest.

That's my current situation ..
Work day job M-F, bounce Friday and Saturday.
That's the issue, most bars won't let me bartend on those nights because those "busy nights" go to the bartenders who have been there for a while. If there is a way to get to that point without sacrificing the weekdays, I am up for it!
 
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