Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sorry just seeing this.
Bartending school. Take bartending class get a certificate and hit the pavement.
Go to all the bars in your city and someone will hire you eventually.
Ask for owner/manager and tell them you are a new bartender and will work any night of the week.
If you are big enough to bounce same thing. Thats what I did.
Hit the pavement asked around and now I got 3 bouncing gigs.
A bar 1 night a week, strip club Fridays and Saturdays and a soccer league on Sundays
I look like a NFL linebacker so that helped though.. I'm 6'1 245.
If I wasn't a big guy id go the bartending route though.
Best to catch bar owners/managers right when they open. They won't be as receptive as the bar gets busy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Come to Baltimore one weekend.wish you were a bouncer in my city cola! Haha
What is the market like in Baltimore right now?Come to Baltimore one weekend.
Here are a few problems manSorry just seeing this.
Bartending school. Take bartending class get a certificate and hit the pavement.
Go to all the bars in your city and someone will hire you eventually.
Ask for owner/manager and tell them you are a new bartender and will work any night of the week.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Why can't you bartend on Fridays and Saturdays?Here are a few problems man
1. I cannot bartend any night of the week, I have a 9 to 5 and need to be at around 7 for work.
2. I want to get a gig at a decent bar or nightclub that draws in hot girls, new bars opening in my area are typically restaurant types that bring in older people for things like brunch and stuff.
Trying to find a way to work this out.
Next time.Wanna meet? I work the strip club tonight @Urbanyst you should come by..
That's the issue, most bars won't let me bartend on those nights because those "busy nights" go to the bartenders who have been there for a while. If there is a way to get to that point without sacrificing the weekdays, I am up for it!Why can't you bartend on Fridays and Saturdays?
Have Sundays to yourself to rest.
That's my current situation ..
Work day job M-F, bounce Friday and Saturday.