"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Calling out Cola!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
Bartending school. Take bartending class get a certificate and hit the pavement.
Go to all the bars in your city and someone will hire you eventually.
Ask for owner/manager and tell them you are a new bartender and will work any night of the week.
If you are big enough to bounce same thing. Thats what I did.
Hit the pavement asked around and now I got 3 bouncing gigs.
A bar 1 night a week, strip club Fridays and Saturdays and a soccer league on Sundays
I look like a NFL linebacker so that helped though.. I'm 6'1 245.
If I wasn't a big guy id go the bartending route though.
Best to catch bar owners/managers right when they open. They won't be as receptive as the bar gets busy.
Chev.Chelios
Master Don Juan
Solomon
Master Don Juan
I bet you get a lot of play
I know a bouncer not the best looking guy but he's always got a baddie or two
However I had another buddy who was a bouncer and he hated dealing with drunk people
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Come to Baltimore one weekend.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
What is the market like in Baltimore right now?
I'm going there today for work. Might stay the night for the hell of it since its Friday.
Here are a few problems man
1. I cannot bartend any night of the week, I have a 9 to 5 and need to be at around 7 for work.
2. I want to get a gig at a decent bar or nightclub that draws in hot girls, new bars opening in my area are typically restaurant types that bring in older people for things like brunch and stuff.
Trying to find a way to work this out.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why can't you bartend on Fridays and Saturdays?
Have Sundays to yourself to rest.
That's my current situation ..
Work day job M-F, bounce Friday and Saturday.
That's the issue, most bars won't let me bartend on those nights because those "busy nights" go to the bartenders who have been there for a while. If there is a way to get to that point without sacrificing the weekdays, I am up for it!