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Don Juan
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Women would say: "Its not your height sweetie, its your personality why you're not getting any matches."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Very well, but why does a 5ft4 > 5ft5 > 5ft6 girl need a 6ft4 guy?people need to realize that this is only relevant to online dating.
if you're a woman you likely have thousands of matches to choose from, and if you could filter out what you don't want then of course you'll filter it out.
imagine you're a guy that can have sex with any woman you want, of course you're going to filter out the ones with no tits or ass, ones of a specific race, ones with short hair, etc etc.
nothing about this is surprising.
water is wet.
because they're delusional and women don't operate in the real worldVery well, but why does a 5ft4 > 5ft5 > 5ft6 girl need a 6ft4 guy?
Maybe I can understand a 5ft10 > 5ft11 girl who is in the 99th percentile height for her gender wanting a 6ft3>6ft4 guy who is in the 99th % for his gender, but some 5ft4 girl writing off a 5ft9 guy is being absurd.
And you can't compare it to slim/normal weight guys filtering out fatties and wanting a slim/normal weight girl in their league. Normies often compare this.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I am 6 foot and went to dates / seduced women up to the same height as mine ( including from dating apps )
Women would say: "Its not your height sweetie, its your personality why you're not getting any matches."
It's OVER for HonestHeightCels.Everyone lies so much that when women see five nine, they think you are probably five six. If it says six four, you're at least not short. It's like if dating profiles made a woman list her weight. Are you going to believe what she says, or add 20+ pounds?
Its simple. Because if women listed their weight these dating apps would lose most of their female and male audience/ user base. They put the needs of women first. Its a business incentive to make you 'pay up' to see more profiles of normal-weighted or slim average looking women... or hot women (though hot women are rare on most apps).All that said, I resent how dating apps don't make woman put in their weight or body type, in fact as far as I know, it's usually not even an option in the first place!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Because she knows that her son needs to be 6' to have any decent chance in having children.Very well, but why does a 5ft4 > 5ft5 > 5ft6 girl need a 6ft4 guy?
It's OVER for LowEloCels.Another reason is that slim/healthy weight average men get a LOW ELO score (swiped on less), where as slim healthy weight average women get a HIGH ELO score (swiped on a lot/tons). What this means is that healthy weight men -- due to their low ELO -- get shown profiles of women with LOW ELO scores, which is always the fat/obese/ugly chicks. Likewise, the slim average looking women get a HIGH ELO so are shown the guys with HIGH ELO scores whom are the Chads/tall attractive men/top 10%. Its a form of digital eugenics when you think about it. These apps are trying to get average healthy weight men to go on dates with disgusting pigs.
If there was a weight filter, Fat women would only be matched to the bottom % of men or their looksmatches (fat/ugly dudes) - which would make them frustrated/angry (hypergamy), even though that's their dating cohort.
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Women would say: "Its not your height sweetie, its your personality why you're not getting any matches."
When I was active, I was getting 4-5 matches per YEAR.I get 4-5 matches per day on Hinge.
I agree with your worldview. Women don't care about height as much as being turned off by the insecurity of it bothering the guy so much. I'm six two and a long time ago my wife left me for a series of short Indian guys named Raj. She said they were all good dancers.My earliest spell on tinder.. which IIRC was 2017 ish, I dont think i listed my height (5'4) but..I remember making a slight reference to it playfully. But matches..I did alright numbers wise and quality wise. or sure didn't feel like it wad a big thing.. last few times on there and Bumble, I've been pretty much invisible.. gone full circle in a few years. And thats with the height listed.. its ****, and does test your resolve and confidence receptors..
But apps will be apps.. water is wet.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.