"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
Very Good. Thanks for sharing.
brokenupinside
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I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
It may seem harsh what youre saying but i fully agree, but some of them never assume that they have.brokenupinside said:
Dated a girl with BPD not long ago and was the worse two weeks of my life, the thing is she was my friend before we dated and no one warm me about that or did i see it.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneGetOveIT said:
Especially the BPD girls / woman who have the BPD criterias only in relationships are hard to spot. And at the end no one will believe you that she was so awful to you. High functional BPDs can be good as friends but in relationships you will know them without their mask. I feel sorry for all the men who are their victims."I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
12 years with a BPD woman..brokenupinside said:
Hell no. I'm feeling for you man. When did you've seen the first signs of her poisoned character? Why did you've stayed so long in this hell?brokenupinside
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Hindsight is always 20/20 but looking back I saw signs right away and I wish I had knowledge of this site back then.
Why did I stay?....the same story you will hear from most guys here that have dated/lived/had an LTR with one of these creatures....incredible sex,alluring personality,the highs were just stratospheric and made the lows seem worth it.
It took me a year to get over her,I owe this site a lot.
By the way my BPD girls WAS diagnosed,it's NOT just my opinion.
Why did I stay?....the same story you will hear from most guys here that have dated/lived/had an LTR with one of these creatures....incredible sex,alluring personality,the highs were just stratospheric and made the lows seem worth it.
It took me a year to get over her,I owe this site a lot.
By the way my BPD girls WAS diagnosed,it's NOT just my opinion.
Accension
Senior Don Juan
Histrionic is the worse.brokenupinside said:
It's all about the attention- stupid *****s.
This BPD stuff isn't even an illness, it's just the medical term for a stupid, unstable *****.
You know the felling i supose.the-nighthawk said:..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy one