You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It may seem harsh what youre saying but i fully agree, but some of them never assume that they have.brokenupinside said:I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneGetOveIT said:Dated a girl with BPD not long ago and was the worse two weeks of my life, the thing is she was my friend before we dated and no one warm me about that or did i see it.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
12 years with a BPD woman..brokenupinside said:I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
Histrionic is the worse.brokenupinside said:I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
You know the felling i supose.the-nighthawk said:..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneEspecially the BPD girls / woman who have the BPD criterias only in relationships are hard to spot. And at the end no one will believe you that she was so awful to you. High functional BPDs can be good as friends but in relationships you will know them without their mask. I feel sorry for all the men who are their victims.