"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
Very Good. Thanks for sharing.
brokenupinside
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I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
It may seem harsh what youre saying but i fully agree, but some of them never assume that they have.brokenupinside said:
Dated a girl with BPD not long ago and was the worse two weeks of my life, the thing is she was my friend before we dated and no one warm me about that or did i see it.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneGetOveIT said:
Especially the BPD girls / woman who have the BPD criterias only in relationships are hard to spot. And at the end no one will believe you that she was so awful to you. High functional BPDs can be good as friends but in relationships you will know them without their mask. I feel sorry for all the men who are their victims."Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
12 years with a BPD woman..brokenupinside said:
Hell no. I'm feeling for you man. When did you've seen the first signs of her poisoned character? Why did you've stayed so long in this hell?brokenupinside
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Hindsight is always 20/20 but looking back I saw signs right away and I wish I had knowledge of this site back then.
Why did I stay?....the same story you will hear from most guys here that have dated/lived/had an LTR with one of these creatures....incredible sex,alluring personality,the highs were just stratospheric and made the lows seem worth it.
It took me a year to get over her,I owe this site a lot.
By the way my BPD girls WAS diagnosed,it's NOT just my opinion.
Why did I stay?....the same story you will hear from most guys here that have dated/lived/had an LTR with one of these creatures....incredible sex,alluring personality,the highs were just stratospheric and made the lows seem worth it.
It took me a year to get over her,I owe this site a lot.
By the way my BPD girls WAS diagnosed,it's NOT just my opinion.
Accension
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Histrionic is the worse.brokenupinside said:
It's all about the attention- stupid *****s.
This BPD stuff isn't even an illness, it's just the medical term for a stupid, unstable *****.
You know the felling i supose.the-nighthawk said:..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy one