"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
Very Good. Thanks for sharing.
brokenupinside
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I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
It may seem harsh what youre saying but i fully agree, but some of them never assume that they have.brokenupinside said:
Dated a girl with BPD not long ago and was the worse two weeks of my life, the thing is she was my friend before we dated and no one warm me about that or did i see it.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneGetOveIT said:
Especially the BPD girls / woman who have the BPD criterias only in relationships are hard to spot. And at the end no one will believe you that she was so awful to you. High functional BPDs can be good as friends but in relationships you will know them without their mask. I feel sorry for all the men who are their victims."Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
the-nighthawk
Don Juan
12 years with a BPD woman..brokenupinside said:
Hell no. I'm feeling for you man. When did you've seen the first signs of her poisoned character? Why did you've stayed so long in this hell?brokenupinside
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Hindsight is always 20/20 but looking back I saw signs right away and I wish I had knowledge of this site back then.
Why did I stay?....the same story you will hear from most guys here that have dated/lived/had an LTR with one of these creatures....incredible sex,alluring personality,the highs were just stratospheric and made the lows seem worth it.
It took me a year to get over her,I owe this site a lot.
By the way my BPD girls WAS diagnosed,it's NOT just my opinion.
Why did I stay?....the same story you will hear from most guys here that have dated/lived/had an LTR with one of these creatures....incredible sex,alluring personality,the highs were just stratospheric and made the lows seem worth it.
It took me a year to get over her,I owe this site a lot.
By the way my BPD girls WAS diagnosed,it's NOT just my opinion.
Accension
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Histrionic is the worse.brokenupinside said:
It's all about the attention- stupid *****s.
This BPD stuff isn't even an illness, it's just the medical term for a stupid, unstable *****.
You know the felling i supose.the-nighthawk said:..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy one