When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It may seem harsh what youre saying but i fully agree, but some of them never assume that they have.brokenupinside said:I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneGetOveIT said:Dated a girl with BPD not long ago and was the worse two weeks of my life, the thing is she was my friend before we dated and no one warm me about that or did i see it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
12 years with a BPD woman..brokenupinside said:I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
Histrionic is the worse.brokenupinside said:I have no patience for mental illness least of all BPD.Having lived with a BPD woman for 12 years I've had my share of that.
What's with the chick on the 3rd video?....7min of her smoking Kools....who cares about your inner turmoil (by the way,she is also hystrionic),yeah baby you are in a "movie".Also what's with the sad piano always playing behind?,it should be the theme form the Exorcist!
All I care about is not to give any of these people 5min of my life.
You know the felling i supose.the-nighthawk said:..and then all of her friends believed her that you were the crazy oneEspecially the BPD girls / woman who have the BPD criterias only in relationships are hard to spot. And at the end no one will believe you that she was so awful to you. High functional BPDs can be good as friends but in relationships you will know them without their mask. I feel sorry for all the men who are their victims.