"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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rushing dude 123

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I am on day 2 2pm and so far i've done 4 hey's and worst of all they were all guys....dammit lol. i did talk to some women that i didn't know or never spoke to before but seen, but i forgot to say hey first and just said a sly comment and a very brief convo if any, so that wudn't count. I'm jus wondering how u guys r approaching r u jus saying hi to any woman that walks past u, because it would b hey....bye lol. i think it should b hi and then maybe a convo for a bit to count. any feedback would b good thanks.

25 women 21 men to go.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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farlenrejorano

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Today was my first day in the boot camp...I have a small question

Am I allowed to take my dog with me to get more attention from people or would it be a breaking in the rules?
 

forgingmyreality

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My first bootcamp was unsucessful, but this time I am ready, if I want to change my life I have to go through this.

Motivation:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VqskS9p9vI

If people, can go through a program like this, I can and will overcome my fears.
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I'll post update next week. If anybody want's to join me, I've set the 27 of january as the end of first week



It pays to be a winner!
 

James45

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I do want to join you! My first week starts in april! Lets get more people into this so we can commit to each other which should motivate us to continue with the bootcamp.
 

Al Moh.

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Bumping this for all the BC people that are going to start soon. Good motivation and inspiration :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jg22

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During my first bootcamp I tried to work through the bootcamp on my own....in the end I stopped after 2 weeks.

Now I want to do it better. I hope there are some people who want to start too, so we can support each other.
 

Fallen

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When i found this site 5 years ago, i couldn't motivate myself enough to follow through BC more than 2 weeks. Instead i adopted some of the views and techniques here and got a lot better. But since that didn't obviously quite cut it ( why else would i still be here again? ) i want to do BC again and this time the entire program. I couldn't find any other or more recent thread to post.

I just read the famous "Walden" postings on the first pages of this epic thread for motivation.


Will start Monday or Thursday. Personally, i like Mondays better. But the DJBC author MotU has a point.


Anyone else interested?
 

collalife

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i agree to partcipate and post.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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