"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rushing dude 123

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I am on day 2 2pm and so far i've done 4 hey's and worst of all they were all guys....dammit lol. i did talk to some women that i didn't know or never spoke to before but seen, but i forgot to say hey first and just said a sly comment and a very brief convo if any, so that wudn't count. I'm jus wondering how u guys r approaching r u jus saying hi to any woman that walks past u, because it would b hey....bye lol. i think it should b hi and then maybe a convo for a bit to count. any feedback would b good thanks.

25 women 21 men to go.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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farlenrejorano

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Today was my first day in the boot camp...I have a small question

Am I allowed to take my dog with me to get more attention from people or would it be a breaking in the rules?
 

forgingmyreality

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My first bootcamp was unsucessful, but this time I am ready, if I want to change my life I have to go through this.

Motivation:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VqskS9p9vI

If people, can go through a program like this, I can and will overcome my fears.
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I'll post update next week. If anybody want's to join me, I've set the 27 of january as the end of first week



It pays to be a winner!
 

James45

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I do want to join you! My first week starts in april! Lets get more people into this so we can commit to each other which should motivate us to continue with the bootcamp.
 

Al Moh.

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Bumping this for all the BC people that are going to start soon. Good motivation and inspiration :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jg22

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During my first bootcamp I tried to work through the bootcamp on my own....in the end I stopped after 2 weeks.

Now I want to do it better. I hope there are some people who want to start too, so we can support each other.
 

Fallen

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When i found this site 5 years ago, i couldn't motivate myself enough to follow through BC more than 2 weeks. Instead i adopted some of the views and techniques here and got a lot better. But since that didn't obviously quite cut it ( why else would i still be here again? ) i want to do BC again and this time the entire program. I couldn't find any other or more recent thread to post.

I just read the famous "Walden" postings on the first pages of this epic thread for motivation.


Will start Monday or Thursday. Personally, i like Mondays better. But the DJBC author MotU has a point.


Anyone else interested?
 

collalife

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i agree to partcipate and post.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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