"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, with 16" arms, it's more likely just a body image. I've talked to a few big, strong guys (250lbs+), and many of them still see themselves as quite small, even though they know that in reality they're not
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Effing Sallies need to hit the gym, eh?!
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You might want to use a scalpel and a suction kit to get rid of the fat for measurement then.DJDoomage said:
Skilla_Staz
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DJDoomage said:
Question: How do you eliminate the "fat hanging off" from your measurement? Even if you basically squeeze the hell out of it and "choke" it with your measuring tape, you'll still have fat,skin etc in between the tape and your muscle.
Also, 16" is a respectable number, however, I would much rather be 14" @ 12% BF than 16" at 18% BF. One thing to definitely take into consideration is proportion. Are your arms small compared to the rest of your body? Big? In tune?
Mine are around 13.5" on any given day, and when I flex, I get people asking if I take steroids. As if a skinny 150lb kid with some defined arms automatically means I'm on roids. So chances are, if you're lean, and have 16 inch guns, you're doing very well. Keep it growing.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Or, haven't girls ever asked you to flex?
Or haven't you ever been lifting anything heavy and your veins pop out?
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we have a word for people who flex in those situationsSkilla_Staz said:
I've never consciously flexed for anybody though...I'd feel usedif I do it, as if its for entertainment of the group. And, if you have decent arms to begin with, you shouldn't even have to flex. I walk around normally and I have that long vein that runs down my arm always bulging out as if I just did a workout, even though I only do two sets of curls a week.
As far as flexing goes, don't bother. Girls know if you have nice arms even without flexing.
No.Skilla_Staz said:
I tell them no unless we've just had sex. Really the only time i remember flexing was after a gf asked me to after sex. Suppose it's a reward and i roll my eyes and reluctantly quickly do it. Otherwise I say no.
I'm just happy someone noticed without me flexing.
We had a guy in high school who was a really big nerd. But he was also about 6'4 and started lifting weights. He got pretty damn big. The girls (and jock dudes) would all ask him to flex all the time. And he'd do it. They were making fun of him, but due to lack of social skills he never caught on.
What's that have to do with anything?
I like modesty. I don't respect immodesty.
I don't like the NFL or any other professional sport currently with all the showboating. Act like you've been there before. I play center field like a banshee and make diving catches all the time and while i'm personally pleased with myself I don't say a word about it when everyone is patting me on the back between innings. I just go back out and do it again. Strangely enough I get enough accolades without acting like a douche and talking myself up like it seems far too many athletes do. The walkin does the talkin.
And to top it off, even though i'm now bigger than the average joe, i still haven't accomplished sh1t worth showing off so i think i'll keep the guns holstered if that's okay with you.
Skilla_Staz
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eh, say what you will...Warboss Alex said:
If a girl is all like "ooh flex for me"...half of the time I'll do it. It's not as if I'm doing something difficult or running around saying "I've got massive 13.5 inch guns, they're hyoooooge". I flex. No biggie. If you wish to call it "show boating" or whatever, I agree to an extent. However, I'm not ashamed of it. I do it only when asked, or when I'm joking around. I'm not the kind of guy who turns my tee into a tanktop and walks around flexing. Generally I like my long sleeve shirts anyways...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.