"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah, with 16" arms, it's more likely just a body image. I've talked to a few big, strong guys (250lbs+), and many of them still see themselves as quite small, even though they know that in reality they're not
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Effing Sallies need to hit the gym, eh?!
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You might want to use a scalpel and a suction kit to get rid of the fat for measurement then.DJDoomage said:
Skilla_Staz
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DJDoomage said:
Question: How do you eliminate the "fat hanging off" from your measurement? Even if you basically squeeze the hell out of it and "choke" it with your measuring tape, you'll still have fat,skin etc in between the tape and your muscle.
Also, 16" is a respectable number, however, I would much rather be 14" @ 12% BF than 16" at 18% BF. One thing to definitely take into consideration is proportion. Are your arms small compared to the rest of your body? Big? In tune?
Mine are around 13.5" on any given day, and when I flex, I get people asking if I take steroids. As if a skinny 150lb kid with some defined arms automatically means I'm on roids. So chances are, if you're lean, and have 16 inch guns, you're doing very well. Keep it growing.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Skilla_Staz
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Or, haven't girls ever asked you to flex?
Or haven't you ever been lifting anything heavy and your veins pop out?
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we have a word for people who flex in those situationsSkilla_Staz said:
I've never consciously flexed for anybody though...I'd feel usedif I do it, as if its for entertainment of the group. And, if you have decent arms to begin with, you shouldn't even have to flex. I walk around normally and I have that long vein that runs down my arm always bulging out as if I just did a workout, even though I only do two sets of curls a week.
As far as flexing goes, don't bother. Girls know if you have nice arms even without flexing.
No.Skilla_Staz said:
I tell them no unless we've just had sex. Really the only time i remember flexing was after a gf asked me to after sex. Suppose it's a reward and i roll my eyes and reluctantly quickly do it. Otherwise I say no.
I'm just happy someone noticed without me flexing.
We had a guy in high school who was a really big nerd. But he was also about 6'4 and started lifting weights. He got pretty damn big. The girls (and jock dudes) would all ask him to flex all the time. And he'd do it. They were making fun of him, but due to lack of social skills he never caught on.
What's that have to do with anything?
I like modesty. I don't respect immodesty.
I don't like the NFL or any other professional sport currently with all the showboating. Act like you've been there before. I play center field like a banshee and make diving catches all the time and while i'm personally pleased with myself I don't say a word about it when everyone is patting me on the back between innings. I just go back out and do it again. Strangely enough I get enough accolades without acting like a douche and talking myself up like it seems far too many athletes do. The walkin does the talkin.
And to top it off, even though i'm now bigger than the average joe, i still haven't accomplished sh1t worth showing off so i think i'll keep the guns holstered if that's okay with you.
Skilla_Staz
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eh, say what you will...Warboss Alex said:
If a girl is all like "ooh flex for me"...half of the time I'll do it. It's not as if I'm doing something difficult or running around saying "I've got massive 13.5 inch guns, they're hyoooooge". I flex. No biggie. If you wish to call it "show boating" or whatever, I agree to an extent. However, I'm not ashamed of it. I do it only when asked, or when I'm joking around. I'm not the kind of guy who turns my tee into a tanktop and walks around flexing. Generally I like my long sleeve shirts anyways...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.