"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah, with 16" arms, it's more likely just a body image. I've talked to a few big, strong guys (250lbs+), and many of them still see themselves as quite small, even though they know that in reality they're not
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Effing Sallies need to hit the gym, eh?!
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You might want to use a scalpel and a suction kit to get rid of the fat for measurement then.DJDoomage said:
Skilla_Staz
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DJDoomage said:
Question: How do you eliminate the "fat hanging off" from your measurement? Even if you basically squeeze the hell out of it and "choke" it with your measuring tape, you'll still have fat,skin etc in between the tape and your muscle.
Also, 16" is a respectable number, however, I would much rather be 14" @ 12% BF than 16" at 18% BF. One thing to definitely take into consideration is proportion. Are your arms small compared to the rest of your body? Big? In tune?
Mine are around 13.5" on any given day, and when I flex, I get people asking if I take steroids. As if a skinny 150lb kid with some defined arms automatically means I'm on roids. So chances are, if you're lean, and have 16 inch guns, you're doing very well. Keep it growing.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Skilla_Staz
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Or, haven't girls ever asked you to flex?
Or haven't you ever been lifting anything heavy and your veins pop out?
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we have a word for people who flex in those situationsSkilla_Staz said:
I've never consciously flexed for anybody though...I'd feel usedif I do it, as if its for entertainment of the group. And, if you have decent arms to begin with, you shouldn't even have to flex. I walk around normally and I have that long vein that runs down my arm always bulging out as if I just did a workout, even though I only do two sets of curls a week.
As far as flexing goes, don't bother. Girls know if you have nice arms even without flexing.
No.Skilla_Staz said:
I tell them no unless we've just had sex. Really the only time i remember flexing was after a gf asked me to after sex. Suppose it's a reward and i roll my eyes and reluctantly quickly do it. Otherwise I say no.
I'm just happy someone noticed without me flexing.
We had a guy in high school who was a really big nerd. But he was also about 6'4 and started lifting weights. He got pretty damn big. The girls (and jock dudes) would all ask him to flex all the time. And he'd do it. They were making fun of him, but due to lack of social skills he never caught on.
What's that have to do with anything?
I like modesty. I don't respect immodesty.
I don't like the NFL or any other professional sport currently with all the showboating. Act like you've been there before. I play center field like a banshee and make diving catches all the time and while i'm personally pleased with myself I don't say a word about it when everyone is patting me on the back between innings. I just go back out and do it again. Strangely enough I get enough accolades without acting like a douche and talking myself up like it seems far too many athletes do. The walkin does the talkin.
And to top it off, even though i'm now bigger than the average joe, i still haven't accomplished sh1t worth showing off so i think i'll keep the guns holstered if that's okay with you.
Skilla_Staz
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eh, say what you will...Warboss Alex said:
If a girl is all like "ooh flex for me"...half of the time I'll do it. It's not as if I'm doing something difficult or running around saying "I've got massive 13.5 inch guns, they're hyoooooge". I flex. No biggie. If you wish to call it "show boating" or whatever, I agree to an extent. However, I'm not ashamed of it. I do it only when asked, or when I'm joking around. I'm not the kind of guy who turns my tee into a tanktop and walks around flexing. Generally I like my long sleeve shirts anyways...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.