That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Or write like one.Or simply grow up and don't act like a 12 year old.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Or getting permanent brain damage if we're really trying to talk about "whats worse". The back part of our heads are soft and don't offer protection like the front part of our skull.. yet I've seen people get punched in the back of the head while unconscious multiple times, stomped in the back of the head.. That sht can change someone forever/ even paralyze them.You know what’s even worse ... taking knuckles to your mouth.... with no guard... and breaking several teeth....
Fighting can be very expensive and life changing.... avoid at all costs unless you have no choice. Seen two guys get into a scuffle at a bar while on vacation. At any moment both of them could have simply walked away.....they kept at each other.... went outside. One punch thrown and the dude fell back and cracked his head off the curb. He passed away... other guy is now in state prison.
Yeah man. Not only did dating changed , society as a whole changed for the worst .You know what’s even worse ... taking knuckles to your mouth.... with no guard... and breaking several teeth....
Fighting can be very expensive and life changing.... avoid at all costs unless you have no choice. Seen two guys get into a scuffle at a bar while on vacation. At any moment both of them could have simply walked away.....they kept at each other.... went outside. One punch thrown and the dude fell back and cracked his head off the curb. He passed away... other guy is now in state prison.
Never heard of chapstick. I’ve heard of the lighter method though.Buy some chapstick and always keep it with you. If you get in a situation, put it in your hand and close your fist on it...your punch will be much harder than it normally would, almost as if you had brass knuckles due to having no give to it like a normal fist would.
If you ever wonder why everyone walks around with chapstick on them in the ghetto that's why.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
A kick to the nuts is the surest knockout. And then yes, definitely the run away part. Avoiding cops is another benefit to this technique.try to knock them out asap and run away.
I heard you can make a v shape with your fingers and jab them in the eyes if you can do it unexpectedly when their guard is down.A kick to the nuts is the surest knockout. And then yes, definitely the run away part. Avoiding cops is another benefit to this technique.
I remember training that move. The thumb is on the underside and hits them in the throat, as well as a simultaneous crotch kick. It felt like something out of The Three Stooges, but was supposedly a samurai move. Japanese people have always been small in stature, thus their jiu jitsu contains a lot of dirty tricks like that, to help a smaller person defeat a larger opponent.I heard you can make a v shape with your fingers and jab them in the eyes if you can do it unexpectedly when their guard is down.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes that is where I heard the move originated from as well. Supposedly it's enough of a shock to their nervous system that it causes them to pass out.I remember training that move. The thumb is on the underside and hits them in the throat, as well as a simultaneous crotch kick. It felt like something out of The Three Stooges, but was supposedly a samurai move. Japanese people have always been small in stature, thus their jiu jitsu contains a lot of dirty tricks like that, to help a smaller person defeat a larger opponent.
A lighter also worksBuy some chapstick and always keep it with you. If you get in a situation, put it in your hand and close your fist on it...your punch will be much harder than it normally would, almost as if you had brass knuckles due to having no give to it like a normal fist would.
If you ever wonder why everyone walks around with chapstick on them in the ghetto that's why.
All this assumes you know the person, it’s all caught on cctv in a public area, the police catch and charge you, you live in the same vicinity as the enemy, it’s a brutal fight/he’s big/has weapon/friends, one or both know how to fight.Yeah man. Not only did dating changed , society as a whole changed for the worst .
The way i grew up and was brought up was all about respect and honor. If we would be walking together down the street and you would get into a fight, i would actually be the referee and let you guys duke it out. Nowadays we would jump that dude together and break all his bones . A honest fight is a thing of the past.
Eli, remember you are one fight away from permanent, life altering damage . And i say that as a former professional fighter.
-You either win, they'll return and take revenge. Meaning you'll have to look behind you all the time.
-You win ,they'll call the cops on you amd now your future is in the hands of a judge or even worse; a jury.
-You lose and you'll lose confidence, and perhaps teeth, eye, brain damage ect.
All three are also possible with the same newly created person/enemy. A simple "watcha looking at" can escalate into dramatic proportions.
My greatest victories were the fights i ran away from!
Nowedays there are cameras everywhere. Not only public cameras also ring doorbells, people have mobile phones and dashcams. And lets mot forget the power of multiple witnesses against you. I've been in fights ,got arrested and apparently a few random John Doe's gave statements against me. The judge didn't budge .All this assumes you know the person, it’s all caught on cctv in a public area, the police catch and charge you, you live in the same vicinity as the enemy, it’s a brutal fight/he’s big/has weapon/friends, one or both know how to fight.
Rarely the case you will tick any of these boxes and you shouldn’t be fighting if any of the above are true.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.