I can't say I had had lots of hot women in my life. So recently when I did pull one I felt uncomfortable walking down the street with one. Everyone is also checking us out because the fact she is hot. How can I can become more comfortable?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Being Uncomfortable With A Hot Woman
- Thread starter mangotot
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tictac
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Count your blessings and compliment yourself.
As this goes under 'high class problems', you really so just want to worry about something, don't you.
So cut that sh*t out.
As this goes under 'high class problems', you really so just want to worry about something, don't you.
So cut that sh*t out.
SgtSplacker
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I can be pretty aggressive at times so it really bothers me when people are checking out my girl.
I don't take a hot girl anywhere there are too many people just so I can enjoy my night peacefully.
Otherwise i'm thinking about ripping someones head off every 15 minutes. And heaven forbid she is flirty too. Odds are that night would end early in that case.
I don't take a hot girl anywhere there are too many people just so I can enjoy my night peacefully.
Otherwise i'm thinking about ripping someones head off every 15 minutes. And heaven forbid she is flirty too. Odds are that night would end early in that case.
zekko
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The only way to get more comfortable being with how women is to be with more hot women. When you are with a hot woman, people are going to be looking at her. I agree with SgtSplacker, it's best not to take a hot woman to a place where there are too many people. And especially not a place where there is alcohol, because guys will be hitting on her left and right.
Better to avoid those places, IMO, unless you want to invite that kind of attention onto her. For one thing, it will make her look like the prize if guys are constantly busting in on you to hit on her. And like Splacker says, if you have a temper, you might get into a tussle or two.
Better to avoid those places, IMO, unless you want to invite that kind of attention onto her. For one thing, it will make her look like the prize if guys are constantly busting in on you to hit on her. And like Splacker says, if you have a temper, you might get into a tussle or two.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BetterCallSaul
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Something about a pedestal and pu$$y....hmmm...what was it?
I am average to slightly above average looking guy, not fat and good sense of fashion. And a reasonable status (in my mind anyway). If I am chasing fat chicks or average looking poorly dressed women, I am selling myself short. In fact one or twice when with non hot chicks guys (random strangers) have shown disapproval as if to say 'why are hanging out with this chick?' So as a result its hot chicks or no sex whatsoever. Depressing.Tictac said:
Tictac
Banned
Work on your own self-confidence mango.
That's the issue, not the woman
Who gives a f*ck if some guy (in your own mind) has 'shown disapproval'?
That's the issue, not the woman
Who gives a f*ck if some guy (in your own mind) has 'shown disapproval'?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
gravityeyelids
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Get used to being around good looking girls. Get a few cute girls that are just friends and hang out with them (and realize that you're NOT going to hookup with them). It'll bring them off the pedestal and you'll see their flaws and realize they're just girls.
The obvious advice is to just go bang hot girls....but that's much much easier said then done.
The obvious advice is to just go bang hot girls....but that's much much easier said then done.
