I can't say I had had lots of hot women in my life. So recently when I did pull one I felt uncomfortable walking down the street with one. Everyone is also checking us out because the fact she is hot. How can I can become more comfortable?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I am average to slightly above average looking guy, not fat and good sense of fashion. And a reasonable status (in my mind anyway). If I am chasing fat chicks or average looking poorly dressed women, I am selling myself short. In fact one or twice when with non hot chicks guys (random strangers) have shown disapproval as if to say 'why are hanging out with this chick?' So as a result its hot chicks or no sex whatsoever. Depressing.Tictac said:Count your blessings and compliment yourself.
As this goes under 'high class problems', you really so just want to worry about something, don't you.
So cut that sh*t out.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Spend more time with hot women! Hit up your local $trip club to become more comfortable around hot girls.mangotot said:I can't say I had had lots of hot women in my life. So recently when I did pull one I felt uncomfortable walking down the street with one. Everyone is also checking us out because the fact she is hot. How can I can become more comfortable?