I can't say I had had lots of hot women in my life. So recently when I did pull one I felt uncomfortable walking down the street with one. Everyone is also checking us out because the fact she is hot. How can I can become more comfortable?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Being Uncomfortable With A Hot Woman
- Thread starter mangotot
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tictac
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Count your blessings and compliment yourself.
As this goes under 'high class problems', you really so just want to worry about something, don't you.
So cut that sh*t out.
As this goes under 'high class problems', you really so just want to worry about something, don't you.
So cut that sh*t out.
SgtSplacker
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I can be pretty aggressive at times so it really bothers me when people are checking out my girl.
I don't take a hot girl anywhere there are too many people just so I can enjoy my night peacefully.
Otherwise i'm thinking about ripping someones head off every 15 minutes. And heaven forbid she is flirty too. Odds are that night would end early in that case.
I don't take a hot girl anywhere there are too many people just so I can enjoy my night peacefully.
Otherwise i'm thinking about ripping someones head off every 15 minutes. And heaven forbid she is flirty too. Odds are that night would end early in that case.
zekko
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The only way to get more comfortable being with how women is to be with more hot women. When you are with a hot woman, people are going to be looking at her. I agree with SgtSplacker, it's best not to take a hot woman to a place where there are too many people. And especially not a place where there is alcohol, because guys will be hitting on her left and right.
Better to avoid those places, IMO, unless you want to invite that kind of attention onto her. For one thing, it will make her look like the prize if guys are constantly busting in on you to hit on her. And like Splacker says, if you have a temper, you might get into a tussle or two.
Better to avoid those places, IMO, unless you want to invite that kind of attention onto her. For one thing, it will make her look like the prize if guys are constantly busting in on you to hit on her. And like Splacker says, if you have a temper, you might get into a tussle or two.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
BetterCallSaul
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Something about a pedestal and pu$$y....hmmm...what was it?
I am average to slightly above average looking guy, not fat and good sense of fashion. And a reasonable status (in my mind anyway). If I am chasing fat chicks or average looking poorly dressed women, I am selling myself short. In fact one or twice when with non hot chicks guys (random strangers) have shown disapproval as if to say 'why are hanging out with this chick?' So as a result its hot chicks or no sex whatsoever. Depressing.Tictac said:
Tictac
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Work on your own self-confidence mango.
That's the issue, not the woman
Who gives a f*ck if some guy (in your own mind) has 'shown disapproval'?
That's the issue, not the woman
Who gives a f*ck if some guy (in your own mind) has 'shown disapproval'?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
gravityeyelids
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Get used to being around good looking girls. Get a few cute girls that are just friends and hang out with them (and realize that you're NOT going to hookup with them). It'll bring them off the pedestal and you'll see their flaws and realize they're just girls.
The obvious advice is to just go bang hot girls....but that's much much easier said then done.
The obvious advice is to just go bang hot girls....but that's much much easier said then done.
