She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
For me it doesn't feel like "much". The calories is around 2200. But if shakes are helping you that's great. One of the gentlemen posted an organic highly absorbing shake product. The price was not much more than traditional shakes.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Nice. Yeah I need about 3200 calories a day to gain weight. My metabolism is ridiculous
"This is all in your mind. Food cannot increase or decrease T that quickly. Over time, yes. Immediately, no.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
My erections beg to differ. If I eat certain things or not I will have quality erections or not.
T levels typically have little bearing on erections. It usually is linked to the balance of estrogen and progesterone.
Hey man, that's all that counts. Regardless of science, if what you're doing is helping you out, keep doing it.
Ah so the foods I eat that limit estrogen production might be doing it
Possible...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well don’t hold back if you have a better theory
Embarrassing really. Girl turned out to be a whale and I parked my boat twice. Then at 2:30am in the morning she got out of bed to go to the patio door and let some guy in who proceeded to **** her face. I interrupted them so I could grab my strewn clothes and the guy was super embarrassed.
Only if she passes the boner test. Otherwise, might as well not waste the time.
This is what I was doing. I don’t know if you ever watched the videos from that old pick up site “Good Looking Loser”. But his whole thing was “don’t be the virgin that only dates 10’s”.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oh she was a nympho. Which makes it worse tbh
What do you mean?
Well, I don't doubt you've got some social cred and stuff... maybe this is a western broad thing but free lunches will always cost you something in the end.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.