"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Are you attracted to me?"
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Oh please, don't flatter yourself....I barely know you! For all I know you could be a psycho woman who loves to cut men up into little pieces and eat them for dinner"
Do it in a joking manner but leave the doubt there. That puts you in a position of power. She's going to be wondering if you're attracted to her unlike most guys who give her signs of interest almost immediately.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Tao walker 2005
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It depends on how she asks that question. If it's a naive young girl who hasn't been on many dates (or any date at all) - I've dealt with a couple - she might actually be kinda serious about that question. I'd say something like:snowdog said:
"Yeah, a little bit, but...
"If she asks "but what???"
"Hang out with me & find out."
The idea is to give her a little bit of bait, so she doesn't fear rejection and flake, but leave her wanting more.
Blue Phoenix
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Later on you might say "You´re not that bad afterall (wink)".
CyranoDeBergerac
Master Don Juan
g: "Are you attracted to me?"
C: (Laughing) "Well, I was when I asked you out, but that was before I realized you were so needy."
Change subject.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Danger said:
Igetit!
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Oh,this is beautiful Danger. Good stuff right here man. Rep. point baby!Danger said:
I'd be curious to know how the convo got to this point. I know that Snowdog wasn't just walking down the street minding his own business,then all of the sudden,out of the blue,some girl just approached him and said,"Excuse me,I have a question for you. Are you attracted to me?".
Count Chocola
Banned
Well, judging from where we stand today, "Do you think I am attracted to you"?
You don't have to answer directly.
But if you want to, the ideal response would be "If I say yes, will you give me a massage? I like massages from attractive women"
There are tons of possibilities.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Daydream Engineer
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Get up on this, show me microphone bliss
She says Are you attracted to me,
do you want to get inside my body,
I tell her its depends, i give her a maybe,
i tell her maybe, maybe your my type,
but, ill rather show you with actions,
because im that kind of suave guy,
who if i was, i would spank your butt,
then tell you, its tight, sure why not
then kiss you, give you butterflies in your gut,
seducing you with my crystal cavern black eyes
so the next time you ask, and i answer the Why,
if am attracted to you, whether its day or night,
be prepared for a swell good of a Jammin' time,
and if that answers your question, good
because rhythm is just a dancer, just like I believe it should.
Meh and if she rejected me and put my in the friend zone i would just play it off in a slightly humorous way anyway.
ARE U ATTRACTED TO ME--------
-a little bit
-ya, you are KINDA cute
-yes but answers...........its dark in here, not wearing my contacts, i've been drinking, i am so not taking you home, more like a friend,
-what do u think, wouldn't you like to know..........
-ummmm you are not really my type
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.