“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
"Are you attracted to me?"
- Thread starter snowdog
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"Oh please, don't flatter yourself....I barely know you! For all I know you could be a psycho woman who loves to cut men up into little pieces and eat them for dinner"
Do it in a joking manner but leave the doubt there. That puts you in a position of power. She's going to be wondering if you're attracted to her unlike most guys who give her signs of interest almost immediately.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tao walker 2005
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It depends on how she asks that question. If it's a naive young girl who hasn't been on many dates (or any date at all) - I've dealt with a couple - she might actually be kinda serious about that question. I'd say something like:snowdog said:
"Yeah, a little bit, but...
"If she asks "but what???"
"Hang out with me & find out."
The idea is to give her a little bit of bait, so she doesn't fear rejection and flake, but leave her wanting more.
Blue Phoenix
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Later on you might say "You´re not that bad afterall (wink)".
CyranoDeBergerac
Master Don Juan
g: "Are you attracted to me?"
C: (Laughing) "Well, I was when I asked you out, but that was before I realized you were so needy."
Change subject.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WC2
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Danger said:
Igetit!
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Oh,this is beautiful Danger. Good stuff right here man. Rep. point baby!Danger said:
I'd be curious to know how the convo got to this point. I know that Snowdog wasn't just walking down the street minding his own business,then all of the sudden,out of the blue,some girl just approached him and said,"Excuse me,I have a question for you. Are you attracted to me?".
Count Chocola
Banned
Well, judging from where we stand today, "Do you think I am attracted to you"?
You don't have to answer directly.
But if you want to, the ideal response would be "If I say yes, will you give me a massage? I like massages from attractive women"
There are tons of possibilities.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Daydream Engineer
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Get up on this, show me microphone bliss
She says Are you attracted to me,
do you want to get inside my body,
I tell her its depends, i give her a maybe,
i tell her maybe, maybe your my type,
but, ill rather show you with actions,
because im that kind of suave guy,
who if i was, i would spank your butt,
then tell you, its tight, sure why not
then kiss you, give you butterflies in your gut,
seducing you with my crystal cavern black eyes
so the next time you ask, and i answer the Why,
if am attracted to you, whether its day or night,
be prepared for a swell good of a Jammin' time,
and if that answers your question, good
because rhythm is just a dancer, just like I believe it should.
Meh and if she rejected me and put my in the friend zone i would just play it off in a slightly humorous way anyway.
ARE U ATTRACTED TO ME--------
-a little bit
-ya, you are KINDA cute
-yes but answers...........its dark in here, not wearing my contacts, i've been drinking, i am so not taking you home, more like a friend,
-what do u think, wouldn't you like to know..........
-ummmm you are not really my type
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.