Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"Of course I am dear. Would you care to go dancing tonight?"snowdog said:Happened to me a couple of times, just wondering...
After asking a girl out, she asks "are you attracted to me?".
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
It depends on how she asks that question. If it's a naive young girl who hasn't been on many dates (or any date at all) - I've dealt with a couple - she might actually be kinda serious about that question. I'd say something like:snowdog said:Happened to me a couple of times, just wondering...
After asking a girl out, she asks "are you attracted to me?".
How the hell do you respond to that?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Danger said:Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Why do girls always ask me that?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Have you ever gone camping? You look like the type.
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: You think you can hook me up with your hot friend?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Yeah, you're not that fat.
To me, this is a $hit test. You need to either change the subject and ignore it completely, or neg her, or give a C+F answer. Any of the three methods will work. Never, for the love of all that is holy, say yes.
Oh,this is beautiful Danger. Good stuff right here man. Rep. point baby!Danger said:Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Why do girls always ask me that?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Have you ever gone camping? You look like the type.
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: You think you can hook me up with your hot friend?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Yeah, you're not that fat.
To me, this is a $hit test. You need to either change the subject and ignore it completely, or neg her, or give a C+F answer. Any of the three methods will work. Never, for the love of all that is holy, say yes.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.