When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"Of course I am dear. Would you care to go dancing tonight?"snowdog said:Happened to me a couple of times, just wondering...
After asking a girl out, she asks "are you attracted to me?".
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It depends on how she asks that question. If it's a naive young girl who hasn't been on many dates (or any date at all) - I've dealt with a couple - she might actually be kinda serious about that question. I'd say something like:snowdog said:Happened to me a couple of times, just wondering...
After asking a girl out, she asks "are you attracted to me?".
How the hell do you respond to that?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Danger said:Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Why do girls always ask me that?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Have you ever gone camping? You look like the type.
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: You think you can hook me up with your hot friend?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Yeah, you're not that fat.
To me, this is a $hit test. You need to either change the subject and ignore it completely, or neg her, or give a C+F answer. Any of the three methods will work. Never, for the love of all that is holy, say yes.
Oh,this is beautiful Danger. Good stuff right here man. Rep. point baby!Danger said:Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Why do girls always ask me that?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Have you ever gone camping? You look like the type.
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: You think you can hook me up with your hot friend?
Her: Are you attracted to me?
You: Yeah, you're not that fat.
To me, this is a $hit test. You need to either change the subject and ignore it completely, or neg her, or give a C+F answer. Any of the three methods will work. Never, for the love of all that is holy, say yes.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.