"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"Are you attracted to me?"
- Thread starter snowdog
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Oh please, don't flatter yourself....I barely know you! For all I know you could be a psycho woman who loves to cut men up into little pieces and eat them for dinner"
Do it in a joking manner but leave the doubt there. That puts you in a position of power. She's going to be wondering if you're attracted to her unlike most guys who give her signs of interest almost immediately.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tao walker 2005
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It depends on how she asks that question. If it's a naive young girl who hasn't been on many dates (or any date at all) - I've dealt with a couple - she might actually be kinda serious about that question. I'd say something like:snowdog said:
"Yeah, a little bit, but...
"If she asks "but what???"
"Hang out with me & find out."
The idea is to give her a little bit of bait, so she doesn't fear rejection and flake, but leave her wanting more.
Blue Phoenix
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Later on you might say "You´re not that bad afterall (wink)".
CyranoDeBergerac
Master Don Juan
g: "Are you attracted to me?"
C: (Laughing) "Well, I was when I asked you out, but that was before I realized you were so needy."
Change subject.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Danger said:
Igetit!
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Oh,this is beautiful Danger. Good stuff right here man. Rep. point baby!Danger said:
I'd be curious to know how the convo got to this point. I know that Snowdog wasn't just walking down the street minding his own business,then all of the sudden,out of the blue,some girl just approached him and said,"Excuse me,I have a question for you. Are you attracted to me?".
Count Chocola
Banned
Well, judging from where we stand today, "Do you think I am attracted to you"?
You don't have to answer directly.
But if you want to, the ideal response would be "If I say yes, will you give me a massage? I like massages from attractive women"
There are tons of possibilities.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Daydream Engineer
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Get up on this, show me microphone bliss
She says Are you attracted to me,
do you want to get inside my body,
I tell her its depends, i give her a maybe,
i tell her maybe, maybe your my type,
but, ill rather show you with actions,
because im that kind of suave guy,
who if i was, i would spank your butt,
then tell you, its tight, sure why not
then kiss you, give you butterflies in your gut,
seducing you with my crystal cavern black eyes
so the next time you ask, and i answer the Why,
if am attracted to you, whether its day or night,
be prepared for a swell good of a Jammin' time,
and if that answers your question, good
because rhythm is just a dancer, just like I believe it should.
Meh and if she rejected me and put my in the friend zone i would just play it off in a slightly humorous way anyway.
ARE U ATTRACTED TO ME--------
-a little bit
-ya, you are KINDA cute
-yes but answers...........its dark in here, not wearing my contacts, i've been drinking, i am so not taking you home, more like a friend,
-what do u think, wouldn't you like to know..........
-ummmm you are not really my type
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.