FlexpertHamilton
Master Don Juan
Not dating, but only fwb type of thing at most. I've never banged a woman with kids; am I missing out? Are they an easier and better lay or more work than they're worth?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's the most essential rule for sex with a single mom and a very good idea for sex with a childless woman too.Wrap it up, do not get trapped!!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes this all the way. Maintain frame with the raramount rule that you are not a cuck who's going to raise her children. Always keep in mind that single moms are often looking for a beta to help raise their kids and provide resources. You can have a relationship, yes, but with very clear hard boundaries.What I always liked about single moms is there are times when they are wrapped up in their kids and they stay out of my hair. Their attention was focused somewhere other than me. When their ex had their kids then they were always down for spending lots of quality time. They could relax and let loose. Always made for a good time.
If you are needy, dependent, and not flexible then you will be frustrated. Things pop up, plans change, their kids are priority #1. It won't be you I promise.
I've always found single moms to have more traits that are beneficial to a guy (nurturing, thoughtful, pleasing, ability to cook) than women with no kids and don't want kids. Some of the women I've dated that didn't have kids and didn't want kids tend to be a little more career focused, more selfish, not as nurturing, more independent, could not cook.
Those same traits that moms have that make them good at taking care of kids also make them good at taking care of their man.
Just don't get too involved where you have to help raise their kids.
I dont discriminate. I try not to lose opportunities. Your questions:Not dating, but only fwb type of thing at most. I've never banged a woman with kids; am I missing out? Are they an easier and better lay or more work than they're worth?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is not what he asked. He asked about investment and worth.If a baby has been pushed out, she's not going to be as tight as a woman who hasn't had kids.
The childless man has a dilemma here.What I always liked about single moms is there are times when they are wrapped up in their kids and they stay out of my hair. Their attention was focused somewhere other than me. When their ex had their kids then they were always down for spending lots of quality time. They could relax and let loose. Always made for a good time.
If you are needy, dependent, and not flexible then you will be frustrated. Things pop up, plans change, their kids are priority #1. It won't be you I promise.
I've always found single moms to have more traits that are beneficial to a guy (nurturing, thoughtful, pleasing, ability to cook) than women with no kids and don't want kids. Some of the women I've dated that didn't have kids and didn't want kids tend to be a little more career focused, more selfish, not as nurturing, more independent, could not cook.
I'm exactly that. Some days I question what I have.The childless man has a dilemma here.
The nurturing, thougtful, pleasing, and able to cook attributes are desirable girlfriend attributes. However, the presence of a child is not. Therefore, the childless man often prefers the option of the childless woman, who has more free time but then the downsides of careerism and less nurturing characteristics.
I think the childless man is better off with the childless woman despite her lack of nurturing characteristics.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.