"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are Affirmations Effective?

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Some say they are, some say they aren’t. I was just curious
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That fastilfe post is exactly how I’ve been living my life for 4 years now.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Some say they are, some say they aren’t. I was just curious
Actually it's more like some affirmations are and some aren't. Affirmations have a lot of people confused because it can be applied so widely, however this isn't a case of "it always works" or "it never works" like many people would view it. I'd say the people saying it works and those saying it doesn't are both correct, but both sides only see the cases that does or doesn't work respectively.

To illustrate my point. If you tell yourself you'll win the lottery over and over again it does not increase your chances, it won't work. If you tell yourself you have confidence and will attract women it will probably affect your mind, meaning it has a good chance of working.

Affirmations isn't some supernatural new age sh!t, that's why it won't work for anything that's determined by pure chance like lotteries. It will however work for anything where your own behavior is a significant factor to accomplishing whatever the affirmation is about. This is because the mind is the control center of you, affirmations are basically just to convince yourself that you can do it. It's confidence and it is the confidence that leads you to take actions towards getting what you want.

Affirmations significantly helps with overcoming the first obstacle, not giving up before trying, most people with lacking confidence fail before even trying. Then it fuels motivation so you don't give up because of impatience, it keeps your attitude optimistic, most people with low confidence also have a tendency to be pessimistic, impatient and give because of that.

Affirmations really aren't any fancier than taking focus away from pessimistic thoughts. The better you are at keeping your focus on the positive affirmations, the more effective they are. So couple it with some meditative practices and you've got a powerful tool to achieve your goals.

On some occasions my focus was so sharp I still struggle to believe how well it worked.
 
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