nicksaiz65
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Some say they are, some say they aren’t. I was just curious
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Are Affirmations Effective?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nicksaiz65
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Yo, that’s crazy. The stuff in that thread is exactly what I’ve been thinking about this weekend
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Actually it's more like some affirmations are and some aren't. Affirmations have a lot of people confused because it can be applied so widely, however this isn't a case of "it always works" or "it never works" like many people would view it. I'd say the people saying it works and those saying it doesn't are both correct, but both sides only see the cases that does or doesn't work respectively.
To illustrate my point. If you tell yourself you'll win the lottery over and over again it does not increase your chances, it won't work. If you tell yourself you have confidence and will attract women it will probably affect your mind, meaning it has a good chance of working.
Affirmations isn't some supernatural new age sh!t, that's why it won't work for anything that's determined by pure chance like lotteries. It will however work for anything where your own behavior is a significant factor to accomplishing whatever the affirmation is about. This is because the mind is the control center of you, affirmations are basically just to convince yourself that you can do it. It's confidence and it is the confidence that leads you to take actions towards getting what you want.
Affirmations significantly helps with overcoming the first obstacle, not giving up before trying, most people with lacking confidence fail before even trying. Then it fuels motivation so you don't give up because of impatience, it keeps your attitude optimistic, most people with low confidence also have a tendency to be pessimistic, impatient and give because of that.
Affirmations really aren't any fancier than taking focus away from pessimistic thoughts. The better you are at keeping your focus on the positive affirmations, the more effective they are. So couple it with some meditative practices and you've got a powerful tool to achieve your goals.
On some occasions my focus was so sharp I still struggle to believe how well it worked.