nicksaiz65
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Some say they are, some say they aren’t. I was just curious
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Are Affirmations Effective?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
nicksaiz65
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Yo, that’s crazy. The stuff in that thread is exactly what I’ve been thinking about this weekend
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Actually it's more like some affirmations are and some aren't. Affirmations have a lot of people confused because it can be applied so widely, however this isn't a case of "it always works" or "it never works" like many people would view it. I'd say the people saying it works and those saying it doesn't are both correct, but both sides only see the cases that does or doesn't work respectively.
To illustrate my point. If you tell yourself you'll win the lottery over and over again it does not increase your chances, it won't work. If you tell yourself you have confidence and will attract women it will probably affect your mind, meaning it has a good chance of working.
Affirmations isn't some supernatural new age sh!t, that's why it won't work for anything that's determined by pure chance like lotteries. It will however work for anything where your own behavior is a significant factor to accomplishing whatever the affirmation is about. This is because the mind is the control center of you, affirmations are basically just to convince yourself that you can do it. It's confidence and it is the confidence that leads you to take actions towards getting what you want.
Affirmations significantly helps with overcoming the first obstacle, not giving up before trying, most people with lacking confidence fail before even trying. Then it fuels motivation so you don't give up because of impatience, it keeps your attitude optimistic, most people with low confidence also have a tendency to be pessimistic, impatient and give because of that.
Affirmations really aren't any fancier than taking focus away from pessimistic thoughts. The better you are at keeping your focus on the positive affirmations, the more effective they are. So couple it with some meditative practices and you've got a powerful tool to achieve your goals.
On some occasions my focus was so sharp I still struggle to believe how well it worked.