nicksaiz65
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Some say they are, some say they aren’t. I was just curious
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Are Affirmations Effective?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nicksaiz65
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Yo, that’s crazy. The stuff in that thread is exactly what I’ve been thinking about this weekend
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Actually it's more like some affirmations are and some aren't. Affirmations have a lot of people confused because it can be applied so widely, however this isn't a case of "it always works" or "it never works" like many people would view it. I'd say the people saying it works and those saying it doesn't are both correct, but both sides only see the cases that does or doesn't work respectively.
To illustrate my point. If you tell yourself you'll win the lottery over and over again it does not increase your chances, it won't work. If you tell yourself you have confidence and will attract women it will probably affect your mind, meaning it has a good chance of working.
Affirmations isn't some supernatural new age sh!t, that's why it won't work for anything that's determined by pure chance like lotteries. It will however work for anything where your own behavior is a significant factor to accomplishing whatever the affirmation is about. This is because the mind is the control center of you, affirmations are basically just to convince yourself that you can do it. It's confidence and it is the confidence that leads you to take actions towards getting what you want.
Affirmations significantly helps with overcoming the first obstacle, not giving up before trying, most people with lacking confidence fail before even trying. Then it fuels motivation so you don't give up because of impatience, it keeps your attitude optimistic, most people with low confidence also have a tendency to be pessimistic, impatient and give because of that.
Affirmations really aren't any fancier than taking focus away from pessimistic thoughts. The better you are at keeping your focus on the positive affirmations, the more effective they are. So couple it with some meditative practices and you've got a powerful tool to achieve your goals.
On some occasions my focus was so sharp I still struggle to believe how well it worked.