"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Anyone pull off LTR without marriage??

Reyaj

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There's something I noticed that has happened with couples around ages 26-32 in bigger metro area when they are childless and the participants have a BA/BS degree or higher. Weddings start happening in flurries. There's other anxiety and unnerved feelings around those who aren't married when the marriages start piling up, which can often lead to those on the later end of the timing spectrum on marriages to get into bad marriages due to feelings of immense social pressure.
I wouldn't limit it to metro areas... although this probably does happen a lot earlier in place more rural. My feeling on marriage is basically that it can be useful and a good foundation for those that want a family. It basically creates one unit for lawful purposes which lead to tax incentives. Obviously makes it harder for either party to cease the agreement thus the level of commitment needed behind it.

If one doesn't have a desire to have a family I don't feel it is necessary other than potential health insurance purposes.

I was thinking about going the Islam approach to be fair. If I can be married to 2 or more women, I basically keep them in competition for my time and feelings etc.. Only one of the marriages is legally recognized in the US while she still needs to follow all the penchants of her home countries culture.
If only these were feasible lol

Naturally, no. But I think if u can pull it off, its worth it.
That sounds kind of like an oxymoron though.. Why would something not natural to males be worth it?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Already posted my thoughts dude. Buying two apts in a building is just an unreal suggestion.
Hmm I think it's not a bad idea, bit over the top. You could just get a large house with extra bedrooms and sleep separated in your own room. You have your alone time and then you see each other on weekends or whenever you have your relax days to have together time.

Just an idea!
 

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Hmm I think it's not a bad idea, bit over the top. You could just get a large house with extra bedrooms and sleep separated in your own room. You have your alone time and then you see each other on weekends or whenever you have your relax days to have together time.

Just an idea!
Been there, done that. Trust when I say it becomes an issue if/when the relationship fails. Regardless, if you want to move a partner in, for the love of the heavens, have her sign a cohabitation agreement. If she refuses, then at least you know you've dodged a potentially huge headache.
 
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