"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The best way to go about this is just moving on and delete her phone number. If she ever asks why she hasnt heard from you, you let her know that you felt like she wasnt really interested in you. let her actions speak, not what she says.
No...NEVER make it about her. Because if it's about her then she knows she still has you. Always be vague and admit nothing. Just be like "oh it has? I haven't even noticed..." and make her seem weird for keeping track of when the last time you messaged her was
 

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No...NEVER make it about her. Because if it's about her then she knows she still has you. Always be vague and admit nothing. Just be like "oh it has? I haven't even noticed..." and make her seem weird for keeping track of when the last time you messaged her was
What I was saying was just to simply move on from this girl who is clearly showing low interest. He should stop wasting his time and move on to Women who do want to interact with him.
 

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What I was saying was just to simply move on from this girl who is clearly showing low interest. He should stop wasting his time and move on to Women who do want to interact with him.
I agree with this 100%. But OP clearly doesn't have many or possibly any other options hence his focus on this one.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I agree with this 100%. But OP clearly doesn't have many or possibly any other options hence his focus on this one.
Well OP better wake his ass up or else this is what's going on behind the scenes... 71228683_m.jpg
 

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NO! The time you described is normal. Take the same amount of time or more to reply. If you call her out, she will believe you care about her. Relax, take a walk, go to the gym. For the sake of god, lack your stupid phone in the car and leave it there until you finish class or work.
Thanks, I agree with all but I don't think the time is normal.
 

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Yeah. You can't call it out. Never call something out that wouldn't be considered truly disrespectful. Even then you should just leave right away and be willing to never talk to her again. Calling something out takes the natural flow of our behavior away. Have you ever watched cats grooming themselves? It's a fluent behavior that only occurs if the cat is relaxed and feels safe. When a loud noise occurs (e.g. sneezing) the cat immediately stops the act and only starts after feeling safe again. Probably not in your presence, since you can't be trusted anymore.

Also, don't do that sh*t on purpose after reading this. No cats should be harmed.
Alright. Thanks
I won't harm any cat lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Never call someone out for something like this. I agree with @HyenaPrince and @Murkserious completely. You cannot know what she has going on and you WILL appear insecure.

Go about your business and do other stuff. Quit being obsessed. That's your bigger issue.
I now see there's no point in calling anyone out. Do I come off as obsessed? I don't think I am
 

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Who gives a crap when and if she replies to you. A guy that is actually busy does not have time to worry about crap like this. She responds you invite her out, she either accepts or you keep it moving. If she does not respond you still keep it moving and find another girl you want to ask out.

All this crap about text game is nonsense, a high value male does not have time for it.
makes a lot of sense
Call them out for what? Dude find something to do.
I now see there's no point in doing that
 

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No just move your emotional energy to a different focus.
Work on your self awareness kid. Men who get caught up in this need a stronger view of their own state.

Recognize the patterns and take the focus to a hobby, your hands your feet. Something physical.
A thousand tims the forum says liw interest. Thats true but out of your control.
Focus on what is in your own frame.
Thanks, I will focus more on myself and my interests
 

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Calling out women for stuff like this is a waste of time.

Anytime you are think about taking ANY action, stop and ask what you are hoping to achieve. Then ask yourself HONESTLY, if what you might do will get you there. Figure out what you want, and your actions should move you to your goals.

In this case... the OP says he wants to move on to the next one... GREAT! Then texting her one more time is just a wasted action... However, if it makes him feel better to send her a fvck off text message before moving on.. well... it's not really going to hurt, but it is burning the bridge. Understand that what ever you text a chick, is going to be passed around to all her friends and they will cackle like hens talking about what a butt hurt little b1tch you are... thus re-enforcing her decision to ignore you.
Seems like a vicious cycle in a way.
I have no plans on calling her out again. I've seen there's no point in doing that
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She's still responding to you, that's all that matters. Patience young grasshopper
 

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The best way to go about this is just moving on and delete her phone number. If she ever asks why she hasnt heard from you, you let her know that you felt like she wasnt really interested in you. let her actions speak, not what she says.
I like this graph, looks like a demand curve. Yeah, I'll just let her be
 

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If she wanted you, you'd know, dude.
Low interest-> next.
Your ego is messing you up and making you think you care about her. In truth, what you need is a girl that's interested in YOU.
Does ego ever bring something good?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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