She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Doggystyle said:say "i am 36"
If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What if you just met her? I had a situation where a girl asks for my age and then she sorta reel off when I told her the truth.flexion_ said:There is no reason to lie. Just tell her your age. She is obviously attracted to older men or she wouldn't be with you and if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
Sound advice. Thank you! (Yeah I never really like lieing. It makes me feel bad.)flexion_ said:There is no reason to lie. ...if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
I personally dont care what her age is as long as she's 18+ and looks good. :yes:rocky_mtn said:Does a DJ care what her age is? Or just that shes a hot babe?
I make the AFC mistake of asking her age after she asked my age. OOPs. I know, never ask age or weight. She made me guess her age, so realizing I'm digging a hole, I said 29. She looked about my age but had that non-aged look like I do. So shes says really how old do you think I am, so I say 32. She's 40. That was 1 of 3 AFC mistakes I made. I got brushed off on the numberr close, good learning experience though.
Doggystyle said:say "i am 36"
If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
That particular comment of yours Doggystyle really hit home with me.Doggystyle said:It will only be a problem if you act like it is
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
My friend what does "C&F" stand for again????MacAvoy said:C&F would be another route. ..
Exactly.YOU are the man. Men get better with age. Women are the ones who should be worried about getting old. You should embrace it and use it to your advantage.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.