"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Answer Her Innevitable Question
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Doggystyle
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If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
Francisco d'Anconia
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Doggystyle said:
I make the AFC mistake of asking her age after she asked my age. OOPs. I know, never ask age or weight. She made me guess her age, so realizing I'm digging a hole, I said 29. She looked about my age but had that non-aged look like I do. So shes says really how old do you think I am, so I say 32. She's 40. That was 1 of 3 AFC mistakes I made. I got brushed off on the numberr close, good learning experience though.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ADifferentKindofDJ
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What if you just met her? I had a situation where a girl asks for my age and then she sorta reel off when I told her the truth.flexion_ said:
Sound advice. Thank you! (Yeah I never really like lieing. It makes me feel bad.)flexion_ said:
I personally dont care what her age is as long as she's 18+ and looks good. :yes:rocky_mtn said:
I like your experience story. Guys have to becareful when a girl ask him to guess her age. If you get it wrong (by stating she looks older that her age instead of younger) she'll have a harry fit over it (you guys know how they could be sometimes):kick: .
Man, I just don't get why you guys make such an issue of the age thing. Like another poster said, it's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.
A younger chick is going to look UP to you by default because society always teaches us to respect our elders. Quite a few of them will even be intimidated by the fact you are older. So you already have that going for you. The problem most guys have is that they go and get all paranoid about how she's gonna react, which blows them out of the water before they ever even have a chance.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again.....make HER feel like she has to qualify herself as being MATURE enough to be with YOU, not the other way around.
PLAY IT UP. Tell her you're worried about getting arrested for talking to her. Ask her what year she graduated high school (with a worried look on your face). Keep reminding her of it even after you know she is attracted to you. If you let a chick put you on the defensive you've LOST. Beat her to the punch in the beginning and it sets the tome for the relationship. I can directly attribute this attitude to at least a couple of my successes with women in the recent past.
YOU are the man. Men get better with age. Women are the ones who should be worried about getting old. You should embrace it and use it to your advantage.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
He's a bud, but damn he was making it difficult. There's no getting rid of him, basically a good dude, the chick's upstairs roommate, and a drinking buddy, but geeezzzz takes a sh!t load of self confidence to keep it going with young HB8.5, I think I did alright and she wasn't to phased.
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With me, the girl usually pops the question after they've gotten to know me a bit through conversation. Then it goes something like this:
girl: "how old ARE you, anyhow?" (smirking)
me: "31"
girl: "no WAY! That's cool"
(and at this point you can see she is suddenly wondering just how much experience you have).
And her age matters little... seems to me like 19 year olds find older guys a bit of a novelty. Of course, 19 year old girls are clinically insane and damned dangerous...
NOTE: For a while, I made the mistake of playing a little game. When she asked for my age, I'd ask her to guess. That made them uncomfortable, and I think it also made me look like I was wanting some sort of validation as seeming "young for my age".
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.