Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Answer Her Innevitable Question

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Does anyone have some advice in what to say when a younger girl asks you "How old are you?". *

*(I'm interesting dating a younger woman but I,m 36 and have miss a great part of my youth because of my phobia of women. )
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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say "i am 36"

If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young

It will only be a problem if you act like it is
 

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There is no reason to lie. Just tell her your age. She is obviously attracted to older men or she wouldn't be with you and if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
 

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Doggystyle said:
say "i am 36"

If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young

It will only be a problem if you act like it is
:up:
 

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Does a DJ care what her age is? Or just that shes a hot babe?

I make the AFC mistake of asking her age after she asked my age. OOPs. I know, never ask age or weight. She made me guess her age, so realizing I'm digging a hole, I said 29. She looked about my age but had that non-aged look like I do. So shes says really how old do you think I am, so I say 32. She's 40. That was 1 of 3 AFC mistakes I made. I got brushed off on the numberr close, good learning experience though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've delt with this recently. My GF is 25 and I'm 32. Basically if she sticks around after you tell her then you're in. Unless you think it's a problem. I am looking for the one, so I looked to see if she was mature enough and experienced enough to meet my criteria for a woman. Also I was upfront with her and told her that I wasn't looking for another 'girl' to have fun with. We all know there's plenty of those. So Freddy1 just tell her. It's a test, one of many you'll develop to see if a woman is right for you or just for fun. ;)
 

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flexion_ said:
There is no reason to lie. Just tell her your age. She is obviously attracted to older men or she wouldn't be with you and if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
What if you just met her? I had a situation where a girl asks for my age and then she sorta reel off when I told her the truth.

flexion_ said:
There is no reason to lie. ...if you lie that will just come back to bite you someday.
Sound advice. Thank you! (Yeah I never really like lieing. It makes me feel bad.)
 

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rocky_mtn said:
Does a DJ care what her age is? Or just that shes a hot babe?

I make the AFC mistake of asking her age after she asked my age. OOPs. I know, never ask age or weight. She made me guess her age, so realizing I'm digging a hole, I said 29. She looked about my age but had that non-aged look like I do. So shes says really how old do you think I am, so I say 32. She's 40. That was 1 of 3 AFC mistakes I made. I got brushed off on the numberr close, good learning experience though.
I personally dont care what her age is as long as she's 18+ and looks good. :yes:
I like your experience story. Guys have to becareful when a girl ask him to guess her age. If you get it wrong (by stating she looks older that her age instead of younger) she'll have a harry fit over it (you guys know how they could be sometimes):kick: .
 

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Doggystyle said:
say "i am 36"

If she says that you are too old tell her that she is too young

It will only be a problem if you act like it is

Doggystyle said:
It will only be a problem if you act like it is
That particular comment of yours Doggystyle really hit home with me.
Great advice I appreciate it..
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I'm 34. The crew I hang with includes a 20 yr old chick, a few 21 yr olds, probably a dozen that range from 24-26, and a few that are in their early 30's. Hit it off with another one I just met that's in her mid 20's last night.

Man, I just don't get why you guys make such an issue of the age thing. Like another poster said, it's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

A younger chick is going to look UP to you by default because society always teaches us to respect our elders. Quite a few of them will even be intimidated by the fact you are older. So you already have that going for you. The problem most guys have is that they go and get all paranoid about how she's gonna react, which blows them out of the water before they ever even have a chance.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again.....make HER feel like she has to qualify herself as being MATURE enough to be with YOU, not the other way around.

PLAY IT UP. Tell her you're worried about getting arrested for talking to her. Ask her what year she graduated high school (with a worried look on your face). Keep reminding her of it even after you know she is attracted to you. If you let a chick put you on the defensive you've LOST. Beat her to the punch in the beginning and it sets the tome for the relationship. I can directly attribute this attitude to at least a couple of my successes with women in the recent past.

YOU are the man. Men get better with age. Women are the ones who should be worried about getting old. You should embrace it and use it to your advantage.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So at friends pool party I met up with HB8.5 24 y/o and we're chatting it up on the patio and CoolButBozo friend is at the grill and any time during our intimate conversation he overheard anything about years/age/whatever he would repeat loudly "HOW OLD" or "HOW MANY YEARS" or just general sh!t stoking

He's a bud, but damn he was making it difficult. There's no getting rid of him, basically a good dude, the chick's upstairs roommate, and a drinking buddy, but geeezzzz takes a sh!t load of self confidence to keep it going with young HB8.5, I think I did alright and she wasn't to phased.

:cheer:
 

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C&F would be another route. Everyone else is right as well. I remember reading in the bible or somewhere about when a girl asks about where you work, aka boring particulars, like an interview and you turn it around on her using C&F, teasing her about her tryin to marry you already etc....
 

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If you don't come off as creepy or too agressive, I find that most younger girls LIKE guys who are older.

With me, the girl usually pops the question after they've gotten to know me a bit through conversation. Then it goes something like this:

girl: "how old ARE you, anyhow?" (smirking)

me: "31"

girl: "no WAY! That's cool"

(and at this point you can see she is suddenly wondering just how much experience you have).

And her age matters little... seems to me like 19 year olds find older guys a bit of a novelty. Of course, 19 year old girls are clinically insane and damned dangerous...

NOTE: For a while, I made the mistake of playing a little game. When she asked for my age, I'd ask her to guess. That made them uncomfortable, and I think it also made me look like I was wanting some sort of validation as seeming "young for my age".
 

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YOU are the man. Men get better with age. Women are the ones who should be worried about getting old. You should embrace it and use it to your advantage.
Exactly.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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